How do I react to the repeated voicemail messages from grandmother?

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My grandmother calls me about every 2 hours and leaves me messages that say, "I'm so sorry if I said something I shouldn't have. I hope that you will forgive me." I don't answer my phone while at work, but when I call her back she doesn't say that to me and she doesn't bring them up. I don't bring it up either. Should I bring it up or how should I handle it? There are times she doesn't remember calling me or what she said on the message so I wasn't sure if I should address this.

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AnderCa, these sure are sad messages, so I know they bother you. Since your grandmother has dementia, she probably doesn't remember she called you each time she did. It may just upset her if she is told she did things she doesn't remember. I wonder if you can buy or make her a keepsake to keep there with her -- maybe something with your picture that says how much you love her and always will. I don't know if it will work, or how long it might work, but it may bring her some comfort.

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