My 83-year-old mother is "my shadow." How do I get her to stop following me?
My husband and I live with my 83-year-old mother, who has a lot of health problems. If I leave her sight around the house, she finds me and asks what I'm doing. My husband and I can't go to our bedroom to watch TV because it upsets her that we aren't in the den with her. Where she sit on the loveseat, she can see every move we make. We can't even go out the doors because the doors are near her loveseat. Mother and I take a nap every day and every day she asks me if I'm going to lay down and take a nap. About eight o'clock at night, she starts asking me if I'm ready to go to bed. She wants us to go to bed about 9:00, but my husband and I will on purpose stay up until 10:00. She'll finally head off to bed. She goes everywhere with us and I have to help her wherever we go because she can't see well and her balance is bad. We can't get away from her until we go to bed at night. Then, I have to set my alarm to get up at 8:00 or she wakes me up if I'm not up. This is a prison for my husband and me. How do I get her to stop following me all day long?