How to look after my bedridden father and bring him back to his normal life?
My father had a stroke when he was 55 years old affecting his right side completely but recovered partially within two months and continued his job of an electric engineer till the age of 61 years. After this he shifted to his native place and led very dormant, inactive life and slowly become dependent on me and my mother for his routine work. He had undergone a hernia surgery afterwards. Two years back his doctor told us that he has Hydrocephalus but could not be operated upon owing to his advanced age hence he always loosing his balance very often and falling down. He had difficulty in controlling urine. Now he is 76 years old and one month back he tripped off and got his pelvic bone fractured after the fall. He is operated upon with an implant of femur ball. Doctor has told us my father has initiated Parkinsons. He is discharged from the hospital and is at home with nurse at home for him.He is bedridden(on airbed), has lost bladder and bowel control and passes stools continuosly. Initially his meal was mainly in the form of a thick syrup but now he is on normal diet. He seems normal, even his speech is getting clearer and audible day by day. But problem is that he is not wiiling to get up from the bed, wants others to feed him, not ready to stand on his feet. His wounds and suture all are in perfecr condition, healing even though he is diabetic. He attacks and tries to hit his nurse if she persuades him to do anything. He is in perfect condition of mind and memory. His diet is mainly Chappatis, Idly, Dosa, broken wheat porridge, cooked rice. Since he is bedridden, has lost bladder and bowel control and passes urine and very smelly stools very often. We use diaper for him but he scratches and pulls and removed the diaper soils the bed. Any suggestion on what I can do to control his Attitude and bring back him to the normal routine? My work is being affected with this sudden change of scenario at home. His doctor says he is perfectly normal and persuaded to return back normal life. Any suggestion on what I can do to control his life and my family life as well. I have two small daughters demanding my time and care but I hardly get time for them or for my work as my father needs 2-3 person to handle his condition.