Back in August this year my husbands great aunt had a fall. I am with her 6-7 hrs Mon-Thur. Am I doing too much?
Hello, I am so glad to have found this forum! It is great. My question is this....back in August this year my husbands great aunt had a fall. And some other health problems. She spent nearly 2 months in a NH, she is 93. Well, ever since August I had to quit my job. Being I was at the NH twice a day cause she wouldn't eat the food...then when she went home..she lives alone...I am there mon thru Fri for 6-7 hours...I have help that comes in for 3 hrs in the morning to get her breakfast, helped dressed, washed, etc...plus my husband and I go on the weekend for a few hours..I have help on the weekend for 6 hours. She spends the night by herself as she has a bedside potty...my question finally is am I doing too much? My husband has a brother and wife but they do not help at all. My aunt has a nephew in another state and they do nothing plus my husband has two cousins who don't help either. My mom and close friends say I should be having help come in so I can take a day or two "off"....I haven't had a day "off" since that day back in August....she does pay me as she also pays the help that come in. I just feel so guilty if I were to take time off and I want to know how and what I can do to make it easier on myself. I have one friend to talk to who is a nurse and understands what I feel but other than that I feel completely alone. Any advice would be so much appreciated :-)