Need some support - caregiving for dad who wants to control whatever we do.
It's been a little over a year since my husband and I moved from Chicago down to Fl to take care of my Dad. This whole thing started because the people that lived on the other side of my Dad's duplex moved out. My Dad was upset and needing someone to watch out for him. He has had numerous health issues. Cancer and congestive heart disease. Anyway my husband jumped at the idea of moving to Florida. My husband has been on disability for about a year. I had a great part time job that I loved and my daughters and grandkids lived in Chicago. We made the move down here and shortly after we got here both of our old cars broke down. To make matters worse my Dad wants us at his beck and call almost 24/7. He also doesn't want us to use his car. It's almost like he wants to control whatever we do. He wants to be included in all of our phone conversations with our friends. I understand that he is lonely and have suggested numerous time for him to go to a senior center but he refuses this suggestion. "Why would I want to go there?" I go to all of my Dad's doctor's appointments with him and also the grocery store. We make dinner every night for him and he comes here to eat, then play cards and talk. Sometimes I feel so angry that I can't do anything on my own. Both my brother and sister live back in Illinois and don't really come down here much. I really don't know which way to turn. I want my own privacy but don't want to make my Dad feel bad. What to do?