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I was a durable power of attorney over my father and one day the DSS said we've been looking for you and your father we've been investigating you and had an anonymous call saying that you was exploting your father's money.
This all sounds very complicated. Your attorney having refused to work with you, the problems with the facility? And the still open case despite your having given them all your receipts in proof. You say that you now have no way to defend yourself as you have no money for further attorneys. However, it sounds as though no one is ASKING you to defend yourself.
This open case? What does it consist of? Is the State now wishing to take guardianship? And IF they are, why not LET them. As to placement, there will be no perfection in that. Elder care facilities are often HIGHLY imperfect. But the guardianship of the state will allow you now your own life, and allow you to be the DD (darling daughter) visiting Dad, instead of forcing you to be a caregiver battling for his and your own life.
If the state wishes to take this on, and you cannot prevent it, then advocate for the best placement that can be found for him, visit him and make his life as pleasant as you are able in his last days.
I have provided all receipts and documents for the money spent . And yes I was being bluntfully honest about for my father did to me as a child I don't know why I'm saying that with you guys but it's just so weird how things come out at the end my brother seems to take it not too good he hasn't visited him a lot too much and he stays right down the road from him I otherwise stay in Charleston and he's a Manning South Carolina and ever since one day he called my brother out the way and told him about it since he has gotten this dementia. So the DSS still has an open case. I am the other hand I'm still going to court without a lawyer my defender dropped me last month he did not do what I asked him to do I have been trying to find another elder abuse attorney but they want bookoo money and I don't have bookoo money I appreciate everyone's answers this by far is not what I expected my father did apologize to me what he did and I do forgive him so I will try to do my best to take care of him either way but he has been going behind my back like the social worker told me for DSS the other day that my father says that I lied to him so how can I be right for him and stand up and fight for him if he's constantly going behind my back and telling them bad things about me ugh
Need more information here. How is the nursing home being paid? Are you paying the bill, or is Medicaid paying? If Medicaid is paying, then obviously the Medicaid case workers approved the application. Or is dad still covered by Medicare post hospitalization and Medicaid was applied for but denied because of improper transfer of assets? If that is the case, you will need to explain yourself to the social workers. Other than that I’m not sure how to advise without more information.
I had power of attorney durable and medical. He was at a nursing home that I believed he was getting mentally and physically abused the people there are not very caregiving I can never find anybody to answer the phone or even help him half the time I went there I had to clean up the room for him he was always in a puddle of pee this place was terrible bishopville South Carolina cottonwood villas never let any of your loved ones go there anybody I had an open case with a ombudsman. I never wanted to give them a penny I absolutely did not want to give them not even a penny but I should have so I think maybe they were the ones who called not sure they just said they had anonymous call with that being said I had an open case in the lady of the ombudsman, Sheila Brooks told me I needed to get a level of care. With that being said I knew they were getting ready to kick him out I couldn't wait so when he got out that day then he gave me his medications and his clothes half the stuff I bought him were missing goes on and on then all the sudden that's when I took him down here to Charleston because he said he'd like to check out this place which was a nursing home that he liked that showed him pictures of it and told him about the place anyways with that being said he had a seizure like I don't know if you ever heard of when people on dementia her on certain medications they have a tremors or seizures and it scared me so I called 911 and with that being said the ambulance said well if he doesn't want to go to the hospital we can't make them then I asked him and then he said hello my money and I thought wow where did that come from we had a great day and then all the sudden he just flip the script on me well then about a week two later that's when I found out DSS was investigating me and they said that we've been looking for your father and you I didn't even have them for 24 hours and they were already on my butt they were constantly telling me I was doing this I was doing that I wasn't doing this and all I wanted to do was get a level of care and take him to his appointment that day
Is this in the UK? Because the DSS no longer exists. According to Google, there isn't a DSS in the US.
If the DWP were investigating you, then simply make sure that you have your paperwork up to date and can account for any money you have handled for your dad.
You haven't been charged, so far, so you shouldn't get too upset over this, as long as you haven't done anything wrong.
The onus is on them to prove wrongdoing, which they can't do if there's nothing to find.
What if? Then I would have to defend myself. If I was POA I would know I had to keep meticulous records and PROOF and files and receipts, so I would welcome them, offer them coffee, tea or milk, and put those records into their laps.
If you didn't keep records and receipts as you should have you need now to hire an attorney and prepare a defense.
Let them investigate. As long as his money was used for his care the complaint has no merit. A POA should never use a principles money on themselves. My Moms bank Statement would have backed me up. The money went in and went out. If I paid for something out of pocket, I wrote a check out to myself once a month, put the receipts into an envelope, dated it and put the check# on it. Those checks were never questioned by Medicaid.
Is Dad on Medicaid? I am surprised you were POA, your first post was that you were abused by this man and our answers were to back away from him. Not to care for him.
How did this communication arrive? Email, text, or phone, possibly a scam attempt to get at accounts and money. A paper letter by mail, with no misspellings in the header and footer, and address and phone numbers relating to your correct local agency (look them up and check, as well as the name of the person who sent the letter)? That may be real, and then pay attention to the advice others here have suggested.
Yes that would be DSS of Sumter county and as far as everything else goes they set me up to serve me after that things have just went downhill I have proved myself I think that I should be locked up now if I didn't prove myself I know that the DSS said they still have an investigation on me in Charleston county cuz that's where I reside then I asked her later why does she even have the nerve to tell me that and what was that about she said well maybe I need to go talk to them I have no idea I am at a loss of words I am confused
Sounds like you're under suspicion so the very minimum I would do right now is to at least consult with a certified elder law attorney to see where this might go. Don't put yourself in a position to be blindsided. The investigation may come to nothing, but what if it doesn't? Be proactive.
My question is I need help I have them nothing wrong and they won't even let me State my case they won't even let me speak up in court they just getting court and start talking and they say whatever is so much like I'm a puppy sitting watching whatever anybody else is doing and they agree with things and nobody asks me nothing nobody else my dad nothing they just say yeah yeah and then but if I still have the power of attorney and durable and medically why are they not supporting that you know what I'm saying that social security says they don't honor the power of attorney but I thought in the state of South Carolina they were supposed to honor the power of attorney that's why we got it to begin with me and my brother over my father
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You say that you now have no way to defend yourself as you have no money for further attorneys. However, it sounds as though no one is ASKING you to defend yourself.
This open case? What does it consist of? Is the State now wishing to take guardianship? And IF they are, why not LET them. As to placement, there will be no perfection in that. Elder care facilities are often HIGHLY imperfect. But the guardianship of the state will allow you now your own life, and allow you to be the DD (darling daughter) visiting Dad, instead of forcing you to be a caregiver battling for his and your own life.
If the state wishes to take this on, and you cannot prevent it, then advocate for the best placement that can be found for him, visit him and make his life as pleasant as you are able in his last days.
Good luck to you, Michele.
According to Google, there isn't a DSS in the US.
If the DWP were investigating you, then simply make sure that you have your paperwork up to date and can account for any money you have handled for your dad.
You haven't been charged, so far, so you shouldn't get too upset over this, as long as you haven't done anything wrong.
The onus is on them to prove wrongdoing, which they can't do if there's nothing to find.
Then I would have to defend myself.
If I was POA I would know I had to keep meticulous records and PROOF and files and receipts, so I would welcome them, offer them coffee, tea or milk, and put those records into their laps.
If you didn't keep records and receipts as you should have you need now to hire an attorney and prepare a defense.
Let them investigate. As long as his money was used for his care the complaint has no merit. A POA should never use a principles money on themselves. My Moms bank Statement would have backed me up. The money went in and went out. If I paid for something out of pocket, I wrote a check out to myself once a month, put the receipts into an envelope, dated it and put the check# on it. Those checks were never questioned by Medicaid.
Is Dad on Medicaid? I am surprised you were POA, your first post was that you were abused by this man and our answers were to back away from him. Not to care for him.
How did this communication arrive? Email, text, or phone, possibly a scam attempt to get at accounts and money. A paper letter by mail, with no misspellings in the header and footer, and address and phone numbers relating to your correct local agency (look them up and check, as well as the name of the person who sent the letter)? That may be real, and then pay attention to the advice others here have suggested.
Your post is providing little information for any poster to respond appropriately. Please elaborate and maybe more assistance can be provided.
Consult with a lawyer is also recommended when accusations of elderly financial abuse is posted.