I am at my wits' end as to what to do...
I'd say this was Sundowners, but it happens way before sundown, like today around 2:00. Mom was fine early this morning. When we were leaving a store it started. I tried to get her in the car, and she wouldn't lift her leg to get in. I had to pretty much pick her up to get her in (and that wasn't easy!).
Right after we got home, she wanted to go "somewhere," "C'mon, let's go," she said. Even though I told her we just got back, I decided it wasn't worth the fight, so I took her for a ride. I didn't go where she wanted (obviously, I didn't know where that was....) By the time we got home, she was not happy and was starting to cry.
Then my nephew came with his infant son. That seemed to calm Mom down as she was talking to the baby. We were sitting outside. Then Mom wanted to get up to go look for the "other baby." She can't walk unassisted, so I had to walk with her. We went inside, she looked in every room. Outside, she looked behind the bushes. She opened or tried to open car doors. Then we'd sit down for another few minutes and she'd get up again. She did this at least 5 times (with me holding on to her the whole time).
After everyone left, she was still looking... We were inside the house, outside, and in the car. It was also warm out. This went on for almost 2 hours. I tried twice to get her inside (there are 4 steps to go up). She would have no part of that. She stopped at the bottom of the steps and would not budge. It was 6:00. Finally, I was able to force her to go up the steps. Again, she wasn't happy.
When I said something to my brother about what happened outside, his response was, "Aww, She doesn't know what she is doing." Then when I said I could not get her inside [I was really afraid we would be sitting outside for several hours in the heat.] My brother then told me that I needed to calm down, to which I said, "Easy for you to say." He said, "I've done it before." Um. No you haven't. He wasn't (and couldn't) walk as I did with Mom, around the house, inside and out, down her hill and back up. He can't handle taking Mom to the bathroom because he gets out of breath and has to get his oxygen.
I also don't believe it is that Mom doesn't exactly know what she is doing. She certainly knows what she wants; and she was always one to do what she wanted. She just didn't want to do what I wanted her to do. What she doesn't understand is why it's time to go inside. (She certainly can't be left outside by herself.) She thinks she can do what she used to do. She cannot be reasoned with.
I gave Mom Lorazepam at 4:30, but even when I left at 7, she was not sedated... She does seem to get worked up like this when some people visit. She always seems to think more people are coming.
My question though, is how do I get Mom to go inside (or even do something) when she doesn't want to do it? I have tried talking calmly. It doesn't matter. I find myself getting frustrated. It is worse than dealing with a child because you can at least pick up a child, and for the most part you can reason with them. Maybe someone can give me some suggestions??