My father is declining in his ability to take care of himself while living with me and I am feeling extremely overwhelmed by all of the responsibilities that I have and am feeling very desperate for help but am having a lot issues with getting help or even in home care because my father is very stubborn and will not accept help or acknowledge the fact that he’s having some trouble with certain things. I have reached out to my county’s Older Adults Family Services and have spoken with a social worker who had me pass the phone to my father after our conversation because she told me that she needed my fathers consent to recommend help for him and asked him if he felt that he needed help at home he then responded with no and then said that since he said no she can’t help us and then recommend a couple of caregiver support groups. I hung up the phone feeling very disenchanted. I’ve gotten occupational, speech and physical therapy for my dad to help him better take care of himself but they have not proven to be effective. I am very on top of all of his medications and try to gently urge him the best I can without upsetting him to take a shower or wash his clothes and bedsheets and brush his teeth but he refuses most of the time or tells me that he will do it and never does. This is becoming unbearable and I am extremely worried about my fathers quality of life as well as mine. I also have taken on all of his financials have a POA and am the representative payee of his social security as my father cannot manage his financials anymore. I’m not sure where to go from here I am so exhausted of doing everything myself and am feeling that I’ve hit a brick wall. I would really appreciate any suggestions or at the very least kind words I am only 30 years and have been dealing with this for the past 3 years. I lost my mother to Frontal Lobe Dementia 6 years ago which was obviously very traumatic so this experience feels like it’s just extra extra terrible because I just went through this. I am also engaged to be married in the midst’s of all of this and have put off getting married because of the fear and guilt of leaving my dad and am extremely worried that I’m never going to be able to get married because I can’t get help for my dad.