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Good luck,
Carol
Second, get your dad evaluated by his doctor to determine if he is or is not competent to handle his affairs in a business like manner and for the doctor to put that in writing on his letter head and or even notarized.
Third, if invoking your Durable POA risks flipping your dad out to the point that he becomes a danger to your mother, then call 911 for he is totally out of it.
Fourth, get yourself into therapy to help with some internal strength.
Fifth, tell yourself that when he was of a more sound mind, your dad entrusted you with this POA so take the authority given and dang blast it, use it because he gave it to you for such a time as this. You dad and your mom, need you as their surviving offspring to be their strong, authorized adult daughter and not their frightened little girl who might make daddy mad. If not, he and your mom will be mad when you've let him spend all of the money because of not using your POA which means that was wasted money too. You have survived much already and you can survive this too, but not by fearfully burying your head in the sand. I wish you the best in dealing with this.
If it were my aunt, I'd urge her not to take further action without qualified legal advice.
(By "qualified" I mean not her best friend's son who is a criminal lawyer, or her hairdresser's mother who is a corporate lawyer, but someone who specialized in the complicated field of elder law.)