I'd like to hear from others about that transition time of when their elders could walk, to when they couldn't anymore.

Within the next few months or one-year my dad will likely be there - I'm probably environment, assistance, financially prepared, but not emotionally. To be frank, how long was the "bedridden" period? Does it just vary all over the place? I think I'm more prepared to for the day he passes, rather than the days, weeks, months, years (?) just before.

The docs seem wholly unprepared with advice or info about this, but I think other caregivers will have plenty to share. Thanks "in advance."

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I am not fifty yet and use a power wheelchair daily. almost 24/7. transitioned into it gradually, and have since lost the use of my hands and arms, concentration, and short term memory. Here are a few tips, from 20+ years of experience......

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My bathroom is a regular apartment bathroom that I share with my partner who has a hip issue, so we have a raised toilet seat. prior to that, I put two grab bars on the wall behind the potty, parked in front of the potty, and sat facing the wall. easier for me. no room to pull in sideways and transfer. not a big deal. just make sure and power the chair off. LOL. transfer from the toilet to the tub. Get a shower chair that has a toilet in it. And I recommend a bariatric one, even though i weigh 120 pounds. They are just made better and last longer, imho.

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Please don't assume that because your dad can't walk, he's immobile. He can and should use a wheelchair to get around. My mom went through this transition in the past year due to bad knees. At 89 her doc won't even consider knee replacement; surgery and recovery are too difficult.

If your parent still has some leg strength and arm strength, a wheel chair is a good option. your dad should be able to get physical or occupational therapy-paid by medicare - to help him learn to "pull" with his feet, roll and turn with his hands. My mom goes slow but she still gets around under her own power. It's a small bit of independence but it helps keep her as active as possible and she feels good that she can get around to the table, toilet, etc. There is some added difficulty getting TO the toilet, sometimes she needs help but an aide and grab bars are always close by.

If your dad will be bedridden in your home, ask his doctor to prescribe a home health nurse for a week or two to help train YOU. you need to understand how & when to turn him, how to move him without hurting yourself, how to use a bedpan, how to bathe him. You should also be very aware of pressure (or bed) sores whether he's in a wheelchair or bedridden these can be quite painful and become septic and fetid.

It's very wise of you to seek advice from others. Doing something like this is hard work -physically and emotionally. Best of luck to you and your father.
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I agree with everything Lynn wrote. Especially the part about not being immobile.

One question: Is the inability to walk due to strength, muscle issues or something else? Is a walker a possible option. My mother used a walker for several years before needing a full time wheel chair. Also, a combination of a wheel chair and walker are possible.

If you father does move to a wheel chair, it is important he get out of it as much as possible. A "lift chair" can help with the transitions. A visiting nurse and/or PT is an excellent idea.

One thing I recommend if your father does require a wheel chair is to invest some time rearranging his closets, cabinets, etc., especially in the kitchen. Just moving staples, glasses and dishes to waste height can make all the difference in the world.

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Just because someone can no longer stand does not mean that it has to be difficult to transfer them. Balance Pivot transfer techniques reduce the transfer weight by 90% allowing a smaller caregiver to transfer a larger person without stress or strain. There are several excellent tools about the size of a laptop that can make this possible called a mrswivel.
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SARCOPENIA - He's okay getting up from bed, going to his desk, going to the restroom, going to the living room recliner and back. It takes all manner of chicanery and trickery to get him to go outside for a "walk." It used to be easy just two months ago.

I've done some research, and it seems to be sarcopenia, the fancy term for losing muscle with age. It seems to accelerate rapidly above 80, which my dad is. The only counteracting forces is some resistance training, even just once a week, so we will try that.

Otherwise it seems that with age, the cells in the body don't process protein-to-muscle well, and there's not much to counteract that via diet, meds. Since he likes nuts anyway, we'll pretty much give him carde-blanch on peanuts to snack on to increase his protein intake.

If he were to be in a wheelchair, he wouldn't have the arm strength to move it around. We'd really have to have someone with him 24-7 then it seems. Right now, he "hugs" the walls as he walks around now, so we've arranged furniture as needed to clear his paths. Unfortunately I rent my place, otherwise I'd put up arm rails all around.

We've made a "snack" station that is a little above waist level for him to pour himself something to drink and to place snacks. It's right near his room..a bit of encouragement to get "up and out" and moving at least a little.

You know, babies at least get to transition smoothly from crawling to toddling, but at least in this respect, growing old -- doesn't seem to have as nice a transition.

I once saw on a TV special about taking care of elders in Japan, a community center had a walking-lap pool that was heated and with water at chest height and hand rails inside the pool with railed-stairs down from ground level. Has anyone ever seen such a great accommodation in the U.S? Or are we just so far behind?
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My grandmother is 98 years old, just in the last few weeks unable to use her legs; my mom who is 67 and in decent physical health is her sole caregiver. I go to assist daily, mostly at night to help with getting her ready for bed as I work full time; I have been online doing a lot of searches looking for equipment or tools that can help my mom transition without hurting herself. There are nurses that comes out weekly to keep check on basic things like blood pressure and circulation and bathe her twice a week but it is the regular things like to the toilet and from bed to chair movments that I feel over time will wear my mom out.
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Due to strokes, Alzheimers and a fractured spine and hand, my cousin went from a cane to a walker then wheelchair in a few months.. She is still able to walk a few steps though. If your dad's doctor sees fit, I would try to get some therapy ordered to keep his legs as strong as possible, even if it's just enough for him to stand in order to get in and out of bed and on the toilet with assistance. That makes a big difference.

I realize that keeping your dad walking is a great goal, but I would be careful that he is able to do it safely. My loved had too many balance problems on top of weak bones and muslces and kept falling and breaking bones. Walking was just not safe for her anymore.

I actually think my loved one felt relief when going to the wheelchair, because she was so afraid of falling again.
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As a primary caregiver, it is important that you prepare and plan for caring for a loved one who may eventually become immobile. No matter how light or heavy, caring for a person who is immobile can be very difficult and add to the daily stress. I was able to care for my mom who was 2 1/2 times my weight. The following is an outline of a few of the tools (hardware) I used to move my mom from place to place with dignity and mutual comfort. Wheelchairs can often be found at Goodwill for about $45.00. Check to make sure that the leg rests fit. The larger heavier wheelchairs are easier to navigate. The lighter models are easier to Iift but often harder to navigate. In terms of stair lifts, if you can follow a You Tube video and are willing to install a stair lift, Ameriglide provides self install stair lifts for less than $2,500 with used models as low as $1,800. The YouTube videos show a two hour instal. It took me 8 hours and found it challenging but do-able. A Hoyer style lift is important to be able to lift the person from the floor to the bed or from a bed to a chair. I found Hoyer Lifts on eBay ranging from $400+. Often slings have to be purchased separately. Moving a person from a bed to a chair, to Wheelchair to a car I found the Take Along Lift very helpful. This lift provides great back support, folds up, is very durable and has wheels. It easily fits in a car trunk. (There are illustrations on the website). These lifts run about $2,500. They sell an additional sling to lift a person from the floor to the bed/chair but I never used the sling as I had a Hoyer lift prior to getting the Take Along Lift. A bubble mattress that alternately inflates and deflates bubbles on the surface to alternate pressure is helpful to prevent bed sores. Bed mats are essential to change bed linens and should be layered under the patient. They are also helpful in turning the patient and keeping the bedding clean. Last but not least be careful of urinary track infections that can confuse matters and make a difficult situation harder to deal with. I hope this helps.
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ruthieruth, thank you so much for taking the time to share this!
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carolbb technically, yes, an OT can help, but you need to find one who is certified to fit people for Wheelchairs and DME. check and see if your area has a Disability resource center. They can refer you to a person with the appropriate certification.
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