Does anyone have any advice on how to move past accusations and the like? My mom has dementia, probably mild to moderate, though she fights going to the doctor for anything more than pills. She is obsessed and kind of hostile about my husband, and it fades at times but then she dredges things up. She's convinced he is breaking into her apartment while I take her shopping or to the doctor (even though he doesn't even have the key or he's at work, etc.), or she'll throw out weird accusations, saying I made promises to him for nonsense stuff, like I wouldn't travel. (It's just bizarre sometimes.) Usually I tell her, let's not go there, or let's change the subject and sometimes it works, but other times she'll keep coming back and I end up telling her I'm leaving and we'll talk another day. Thing is, it really irritates the hell out of me, that she accuses my husband of stuff. She can't help it, since the dementia does weird stuff, but that she turns the man I've chosen to spend my life with into a villain just drives me up the wall.