Should I move out and stop supporting my mom?
My mom has lived with me for all my life. She is 84 and I am 53. She raised me with 3 brothers alone. I have always appreciated what my mom has done for me. When I was 23 I brought a house and asked my mom to move with me. She did, and we have been together since then. We stayed there for 25 years. My plan was to pay off the house and leave it for her, but that didn't work out. The property value went way down and we had to move. Long story short, I have let my mom reign in the house we lived in and now the apartment we live in. We have been here for 9 years. I have brought her a car, and I am now paying for dental work she needs done. I claim her on my taxes, but I give her a portion of the refund I get. The only thing I asked my mom to do is sign power of attorney over to me or my brothers, she refuses to do so, and I found out through my brother that she has a storage unit she has had for 9 years since we moved from the house. I was very upset, and told my mom she needs to get rid of it. She is a cancer survivor on a fixed income, and she has already lost over six thousand dollars paying for things she will never use again. This is what has caused the biggest problem in our relationship. My mom is very independent and strong willed, she is still able to take care of herself. When she asked me for a loan to get dental work done, it was over three thousand dollars. I told her I would give her the money if she got rid of the storage unit. This caused her to throw an tantrum and she cried and told me that I didn't care for her and after all she has done for me i should be willing to lend her the money. She brought up that I should have given her money from the sale of the house, because she had invested in help keeping the house up. She said that she is not getting rid of her stuff and started crying. I never knew my mom felt this way. Now I dont think we can live together anymore because she feels resentful towards me. I gave in and gave her the money for the dental work, but I told her when the lease is up in June of next year i will be moving out. I have encouraged her to start looking for a place now, to give her time to get used to the idea of us living apart. She says that she is not you going anywhere and that I can leave. She can't not maintain the apartment on her fixed income, but she says no matter what anyone says she is not moving. She knows the options she has, because we have looked at independent living facilities before. I am praying for the right decision, I don't want to abandon my mom, I would still help her with what she needed if she moved. I just wanted to know others opinion and advice. Thanks.