My Gram has been living with me for just over a month. She was in assisted living, but kept being sent to psych for med evaluation (for combativeness). After the last trip we brought her to live with me and we were successful at weaning her off some of the medication that had her so sedated.
She did well for the first couple of weeks, but then started getting combative with me. Now our biggest challenge is trying to get her to use the toilet and to take a shower. She starts punching, biting, kicking, slapping, etc. I don't know what choice I have, but to get her to the toilet. I can't let her urinate all over the house.
I've tried everything I can think of to get her to cooperate with me, but I'm afraid I've become just the caregiver to her and she resents me now. She acts very normal when others are around. But when it is her and I (and even the home health aide) she is very combative when we try to do bathroom functions.
At this point we are giving her Ativan to sedate her to make her easier to deal with. Has anyone else dealt with this problem with any success? I physically can't take care of her when she is so sedated, but I also don't know how much more I can take emotionally. It's exhausting.
Any help is greatly apreciated!