Mom has Lewy body dementia. Her recognition issues are two fold. First, she has mentally split most of us into 2-3 people. This has been going on awhile. An example, she thinks at least two ladies live in my house (only me). On top of this, she is having more problems with facial recognition. This is esp difficult for me because I am the only sibling involved in her life, we've always been extremely close, I'm her primary person for everything, and I see her constantly.
Lately she has been lamenting that she never sees me! This is upsetting for her because she wants to see me and it's terrible for me because I am putting in so much time and effort.
She will say she hasn't seen her daughter and I will generally say it's ME, I'm her daughter, I'm here, and I just saw you two days ago. She seems happy that I'm ME and accepts the explanation. We've told her that her mind plays tricks on her, it is nothing she can help, try not to let it upset her, and it's always OK to ask any time she isn't sure. Then a PT helper will come over (an hour after I was there) and she will tell her she never sees me!
Ironically, she always remembers seeing my husband because there are no other men in her life at the moment. But I am the primary constant in her life and she feels (and tells others) that she never sees me. It is so difficult.
I hate to correct/reassure her and say I just saw you two days ago, I'm here all the time. But I also hate to just agree with her that she never sees me.
What are the best responses? Is there a good way to reassure her?