My mother, who has dementia is bedridden and cannot walk or stand. She is constantly calling for me. Any suggestions to stop this?

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My mother, who has dementia is bedridden and cannot walk or stand. She is constantly calling for me. Any suggestions to stop this?

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It sounds like u need some relief. Time to hire some help. Unfortunately, it won’t stop because she doesn’t remember calling you. No matter how many times, I’m so sorry but she won’t remember. That is her disease and dont every deny what you can’t understand. Please look into hiring someone to help u. This person needs to stay by her side and keep her occupied. It’s for your best interest and sanity. Also, not sure what her meds are but it’s beneficial to see a Geriatric Dr., and Geriatric psychiatrist, they have more flexible w/meds and dosages than a regular GP. GP won’t budge but these Geriatric Dr’s are more specialized in this disease and it will help you deal w/ your situation better. It’s very important you take care of yourself and this will be extremely helpful to help your situation. In memory of my Gramma Rosa, God Bless!

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You can not erase your mothers relationship with you. You can dull it with anxiety med. Be thankful for the "intimacy" she shared with you since your birth. Your life in the past is full of blessings. You have and are saying good by and this allows you to ask the Dr. for help.

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The lorazrpam plus tramadol made her so tired that she slept and hardly moved for about a day. So today I only gave her half the dose of lorazrpam plus the usual dose of tramodol. She has started calling me very frequently again.... I try to give her a crayon and paper but she doesn't like it..... Gets bored right away. I've tried the TV and music and she doesn't like anything
Finally I decided to give her the other half of the lorazrpam dose hoping it would calm her down. I tried sitting in the same room and asking about her childhood. S he still went on calling me and saying that she wants to go home..... I tell her she is home. Do you know of any activities that you do with your father to try to keep him occupied? I hate this having to give her enough meds to sleep.... So much that I this was "IT"....... Today she is up and constantly calling me "help" as in what should she do., and take me home......... It really can get frustrating to deal with this?..... Any suggestions welcome!

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I have not read all previous responses, so forgive me if I am redundant.

I would buy her a baby doll, you can get one that looks real and then she will not be alone, ever.

I do believe that her doctor can order a hoyer lift and then Medicare will pay for it. She should not be left in bed all the time. She should have a regular routine of getting up and dressed and moved into the common areas. I can't imagine how frightening and mind numbing it would be to be stuck, by yourself in the same room day after week after month after year. It sounds like a punishment. Put her in a wheelchair and move her around, give her mind something to focus on besides you. Between that and her new baby I bet you hear your name a lot less.

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Thank you so much for your reply. I perhaps will check with hospice nurse and or house call physician if this a good idea about a. Hoyer. Lift to a wheelchair or is mom too fragile and confuseg to like it. The present goal is comfort care
Her hospital bed is in the family room...so she can see others frequently to talk and listen to her even when she doesn't make sense
She is past participating in assisted living activities now. I have agonized in the past whether I should have taken her out of assisted living when I did..... She had been rn a snf before that and could be wheeled around a bit and interact...... But no help with feeding which she needs help with..... At least at home I can help and feed her the little she eats....her gi tract is not working well and the nurse said he isn't absorbing much. She recommended ice cream which I feed her in small portions. The w hole thing can be heart breaking for the caregiver to watch and often question myself through this long journey.

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