He is 85, I am 72. He has severe pain in right hip which has worsened and he takes pain meds with evening meds. He just started asking for the meds during day. He can take 4 times a day. He has started waking me nearly every two hours at night asking if it’s time to get up or just talking about anything that pops in his head. I can’t sleep with the questions and the pats the abrupt questions and my fear that he will get up and fall or pass in his sleep.
suggestions?
I hope you are getting some help with caring for him cuz it sounds like you are burning the candle at both ends.
Sorry that you are feeling so much fear. It might be helpful for you to come to terms with and accept the fact that he might fall or pass in his sleep. No matter what you try to do from preventing it from happening. As long as you are providing a safe environment, you will have nothing to feel guilty about it/when it happens.
As far as passing in his sleep, wouldn't that be a lovely, peaceful way to go? I guess it could be a little disturbing to wake up in bed with someone who has passed but it beyond that it's the method I hope for for myself. When I'm 100!
Are you happy with your current medical advisors? Who is leading his health care?