My mom is 91 with dementia and depression, which she is taking medication for. Has been on the same meds for several years. The incontinence has gotten worse, even bought a new washer as the underwear get so soaked with urine. Just were not getting clean anymore. I want to suggest Depends so all she has to do is just throw them out, just replace the underwear with the adult diapers, but I know I'll get the stink eye and an argument as when we talk about the picking of the scabs. I put a bandaid on one of these scabs as it was starting to swell and look really nasty, but not infected. I want to just wrap her arms with neosporin and wrap with for a few weeks. That one scab was healed in a couple of week. Took the bandaid off and showed her how well it look and still get "I don't pick!!!". I don't feel like a daughter anymore and I just feel so frustrated most of the time as I try to take care of all her needs as best I can. If it wasn't for my husband's help, I don't think I could keep doing this. He's the only help I have for now. Any advice from you wonderful people.