My husband is 60 years old today and he has suffered 2 strokes that has left him with vascular dementia. He is in the hospital right now recovering from below the knee amputation. The other leg was amputated below the knee 4 years ago. He recovered fine with the first one ,but after his strokes even with rehab he became a hermit in the bedroom. My brother and sister in law has lived with us for 2 years now to help care for him while i work a full time job,this is a constant battle with him, he tells them everyday to move out. He has been incontinent since the strokes, unable to prepare meals, or take his meds on his own, he is diabetic and insulin dependent. I no longer have a life, I haven't went to my daughters homes in 2 years. He doesn't want to be around anyone, just go for a car ride.