The nursing home calls me to talk to her when she is crying hysterically. I cannot always calm her and they usually end up giving her an extra dose of her meds (at my request). Why can't they just give her the meds and calm her; what can I do from home. I cannot run up there every time they cannot calm her down. She thinks someone is hurting my grandchildren, or she says they are taking her away, or sometimes just cannot stop crying. Has anyone else experienced this? She is already on medication for anxiety and they administer a gel (ABH ?) to help calm her when all else fails. What other options are there at this point in dementia? She also is being treated for past seizures and a prior "mini" stroke. She is immobile due to a broken kneecap for which she refused surgery and/or PT. She is 92 and hardly eats any food, but drinks her nectar and always eats a chocolate or two each day. I keep her calm when I visit by bringing photo albums, which she loves to look at. Otherwise, her days are "empty"; no other family members will visit her and I am an only child. It is so sad to hear her when she gets like this.