My adult kids came into town to "help" when their dad was in hospital with pneumonia. He has dementia so our lives are complicated. He also has an ostomy that I have taken care of for ten years. They had all kinds of ideas, ideas that cost money, hire an aide, do this do that. One even said she would pay for an aide one day a week. Well what about the other 6 days. Finally one son said he would move back home to help out. He is unmarried and retired. I said great! So I sent a note to the others saying we solved the problem. I won't go broke and lose my home and your brother is helping out. I also said he refused to take money so I was going to put some money aside when we pass away...Well, one son never even replied to the email. He feels even though he is out of town he comes every 2 months for 4 or 5 days and he feels that I don't appreciate him. I told him beofre, I appreciate what he does, but he isn't here day to day. So now he has not spoken to be since I wrote the note. And frankly I don't care anymore. I am drowning here with responsibilities. He should be pleased his brother stepped up instead of feeling slighted. How do I handle this new problem, because I am so done with this?