So last night my husband and I were at my mom's to have dinner with her. This involves me doing 90% of the work but I don't care about that, it makes her feel like she hosted us. But as were all talking my heart just sinks further and further. She couldn't figure out the TV remote and my husband was showing her the basic buttons over and over while I was in the kitchen, and 1 minute later she couldn't remember them again. Then she starts talking about her upcoming doctor appointments. Foot doctor (she just had neuromas removed in both feet, didn't improve much of anything), her "pain doctor" for back pain with no known cause, her "head doctor" that's the neurologist appointment coming up.... then she tells me she made an appointment to see a doctor about "getting her eyes done".
WTF! First of all, she had that done about 18 years ago. Her eyes look fine! I tried to tell her-- Mum, you don't need to have that done-- but she wouldn't hear of it. "I want to do it, so I'm getting it done".
I dropped it. We stayed for about 3 hours and then got ready to leave. She complained I didn't stay long enough, but I left anyway.
Came home and made a stiff drink.
No way in hell am I taking her for totally unnecessary cosmetic eye surgery. How do I handle this with her? She will need someone to drive her. Do I refuse to drive. She'll throw a fit. Tell her to take Uber?
This is insane and I want off this crazy train!!