Trying to help my gram but not sure how to go about it?
Hi, so i guess i should start with some details. 3 or 4 years ago my mom and grandfather passed away 3 months apart. I ended up moving in with my gram shortly after my grandfathers passing. She was still herself at that point. A little less then a year later i had moved out and she asked me when i was coming home. I asked her why and she stated she was forgetting to take her meds. I moved back that day and havent looked back. She started needing daily reminders for her meds. Then she needed to be told repeatedly to shower. She will forget where things/places are located that have been located in the same place for 10 years. She no longer wants to drive, which honestly i agree with. I have stepped up and now am the "mother" of my household. I got my permit so i can drive for her (im 28 so it was a little late but ill have my license soon) i tried explaining the change in her listen anywho would listen her doctors, friends, family, etc. She sugarcoats it for the doctors. My family refuse to see it for what it truly is. She wants to be with my grandfather shes told me this many of times. But i feel she should try to make the most of life. In just 3 years i now am the only one keeping the house running (my household consists of my uncle myself my boyfriend and gram) i am the one who makes sure theres food in our fridge, oil to heat the house, i cook, and i clean. My gram doesnt really talk to me anymore but im the one trying to help her sovle her problems. I have put alot of pressure on myself after so long of no one taking responsibility for various problems. I feel like i have to remember/be concerned about everything from the broken thibgs around the house to my grams health to the basic wellbeing of the house and its people. I felt at first after doing some research that my gram was suffering from depression, which with all the loss was more than understandable. But she has been on an antidepressant for a while now. Im worried it could be dementia. The doctors wont take my concerns seriously so i have asked my aunt to be the person who deals with the doctors. But she doesnt see or believe me how bad it has gotten. I guess after exasperating every possible resource i can think of i am here just wondering if i am alone in my situation and if not how i could handle it all better. I am so stressed out all the time. I dream of my stressors. I do have support through my boyfriend, but my mom would have been the go to for this whole mess. This is my first attempt to get advice through an onlibe community so fingers crossed.