I need to not feel like a horrible son and seek advice. My mother is 74 years old and we share the house. We both have physical disabilities and have our own medical problems to deal with. She had a brain bleed about two years ago, which was a traumatic event. Before that she was semi mobile, as in she would get out of the bed, to a chair, to the toilet on her own. She would also do the same for bathing. Since the brain bleed, she refuses to get out of the bed, so she's bedridden by choice now almost. She refuses to even attempt to try what she could do before, even with assistance. This is going to sound horrible but I think she has the strength to try with help. I have to change her and clean her up daily. She will bathe herself in the bed. Basically I just feel like a horrible son because I get so frustrated with her and need advice on how to cope. I try my best to get out of the house for time to myself as much as I can. I have tried to get help in the house but her insurance won't pay for it, and our income is too high for state assistance. My family is of no help.