My husband (71) has been bipolar all his life and now that he has Alzheimer’s his behavior has become much worse. He snaps at me for no reason and then criticizes me for things that didn’t even happen. It continues for hours and sometimes for days, at times he becomes violent. My problem is that I don’t know what to do when this happens. I’m afraid that any move I make may irritate him more. Not knowing how to react when this happens I get scared and freeze while he continues to badger me.
Which is the best way for me to respond when I receive his verbal abuse? Should I agree with him and tell him I was wrong? Should I apologize for something that never happened? Should I pamper him? Should I not make any moves and just let him continue criticizing and insulting? I heard it was best not to argue and try to correct things, so I try to stay away from doing so. But what CAN I do I calm him and stop his violence?
I can’t go away since I fear leaving him home alone, especially when he’s angry. I hired for assistance last year but it did no good. In front of other people my husband is a different person like Jekly & Hyde. I got some free time when I hired, but what I need to know is how I handle his outbursts when there is no one to help me? What are the best way to respond and the best thing to do when he flares up in order to help his anger go away?