My 94 yr old dad has moderate dementia with Confabulation. He has created “memories” involving each of his 2 friends, and one where my husband told Dad he was taking our money and putting it in a secret acct so he could go out and play with women.
He moved into Assisted Living last month and has created another couple of stories. One was, a guy came in and dad gave him his old medical alert button, quit, and took the button (I had the button and turned it in, which he forgot).
The latest has to do with his stool softener med. since he was having diarrhea (“ever since I’ve been here”). I told him I would see about getting the dose cut down to what we had at home. Today he called me and said someone called him saying that if he didn’t take the medication he would have to leave. I really doubt it happened, but called and left a message for the nurse to double check his dose, since it was less than on the bottle (I believe I indicated the dose for him on his meds list when we moved in). She is supposed to call me back.
His MD started him on Serequel the week before he moved, and we were hoping this would help his anxiety and cut down on his false memories.
Now that he is in Assisted Living, how should this be handled? Should I just placate him and hope he drops whatever issue he has next time? Should I let the Nurse know, if it involves the facility? I think he is in a great place, but it is somewhat new, so what if something really happened and I blew it off?