As I've done some research, I feel like my mom is showing early signs of dementia. I would like to be able to speak to one of her doctors, perhaps her psychiatrist, and tell him my concerns and ask if he can screen her for a diagnosis. Of course, I'm not sure what's going on and I don't know what kinds of medications she takes so it could be something as simple as that. But it's clear to myself and my father that something is happening. I'm not sure how to go about this. I would prefer to have a private conversation with this doctor and have him evaluate her. Her reaction of my getting involved could get especially testy and angry so I would like to avoid just telling her I think something is going on and that she needs to be checked. She sometimes includes me on her HIPPA forms as a point of contact but after a doctor's visit today, I'm not sure she always realizes she's putting my name on a HIPPA form as opposed to putting me down as an emergency contact. My father would prefer that I speak to any doctors. I think he feels like I can better convey what we see and some of the interactions I've personally had with her. I'm not sure what to do. I have read that not being on the HIPPA form doesn't prevent me from calling her physician and stating my concerns but I don't want him to turn around and tell her I called. I don't want to sneak around but I have to consider the effect my participation will have on our relationship if I don't step carefully. As both my parents age, I will be the only one in the position to help them. Could someone give me some advice?