I have MS and had kidney cancer and spinal surgery. I can take care of myself and my home. I handle everything. I am a widow. My son is 30 and has Mental illness. He has his master’s degree. He can be very cruel. His life has been difficult. No father and many disappointments. He is in pain. All through his life we have had counseling and he was put on medication. He has not been on any for years. He will not take it and resents me for putting him on it. I am concerned about my future. I know I must get a will, power of attorney, and healthcare proxy done. No family. I have someone in mind. Any other suggestions?