I moved my 93 yr old Mother who has dementia in with me 4 months ago. She is very verbally abusive to me. I have heart disease and now afraid she will cause me to have a heart attack. Placing her in a home is first choice but she has no means to pay and if I use my retirement then I will have nothing. Her deceased husband was a Veteran. Any information anyone could share with me on the process of getting her in a VA home. I know I start with calling them but thought someone who has been thru the process may have tips for me.