Frightening end for my dad. I need to talk about it.
After 2 years of going downhill, becoming incontinent, very weak, not able to get around, getting dementia, doing the standing up peeling anywhere, becoming bowel incontinent, not getting the best care because my mother insisted on doing everything herself and would not hire help, a few weeks ago my Dad had no strength absolutely in his legs, they took him to hosp, his BP was through the roof, they said he had a stroke, they recommended palliative care, they gave him the meds he needed at hospital, my Mom insisted he go home instead of palliative care place, so she fails to get his prescriptions filled, a team/person from hosp was going to come and assess his care needs but before that happened he died. He died either very late evening or very early morning. There he was taken from hosp to home, and at least hosp provided him a hosp bed at his house but ALL meds are completely dropped. One scrip was for morphine. Couldn't she at least given him that????? I can't wrap my head around this. Three of us adult children are in California and one brother is in same state as my Mom but he doesn't have "take charge" abilities over my Mom. Dad died on 10-20-2017. This hurts. I need to talk about it. If hosp said he needs palliative care does that mean it was certain he would die? Was my Dad in pain when he died? We adult children were wrong letting my Mom keep/take control.