My father is 77 years old, and recently I have noticed changes in him. He is normally a person you can talk to, he has good advice and loves joking around. I do not live near him, but I do see him every few months and talk to him almost daily. When I talk to him, everything is fine and dandy, but we just got back from vacationing with him I was so upset by seeing such a change. I was making a joke in front of many other older family members and he got so upset at it, he went off!!! Yelling and screaming at me, telling me he never wants to hear anything like that again! Even my mother was trying to tell him I was just kidding, well he didnt care and kept on then finally walked out of the room. I let him calm down for a bit then walked outside to apologize to him. Big mistake, because all it did was start all over again with me saying, I get it, I get it, I wont do it anymore...but I have never seen this man that mad before....I did ask for a hug and he gave me one. About 20 minutes later we went out to eat and it was like nothing had even happened....totally out of character for him.
Another incident happened with another family member. Someone said something to him he took wrong and when approached the next day to clarify the comment a huge argument began on my dads side and the other family member couldn't even explain a thing without being told to shut up, my dad knew what he meant and he didn't need to hear anything he had to say....The next morning my dad met this family member with grins and chuckles say "sooo hows it going this morning" just like he always does...and like nothing ever happened. There are other instances when I have heard he gets very upset and will NOT anyone explain what they meant because he KNOWs what they meant.
I do not know if there has been a change in medications, or what the change is, but I plan on talking to my mother about it when she gets back off of vacation. I just fear it may be signs of an illness coming on. He had open heart surgery 2 years ago, he is diabetic, and has hearing loss for which he will NOT get hearing aids for. He says he doesnt need them.
How does one approach a parent when you think something is going on? I fear it will lead to more arguing, and not just I dont agree arguing, but full blown screaming match on his side....I am just so worried about it.