My mother, who has moderate dementia has, since the beginning of Lent, decided that she needs to Fast/Abstain EVERY day. She grew up Catholic, and has expanded these "rules" to mean that she eats:
-a small breakfast
-ONLY fish and vegetables for lunch and dinner
-no liquids between meals
Again, this is every day.
She is in a Memory Care facility that offers beautiful snacks, a varied menu, and the ability to reject all offerings and have the chef make something completely different.
My mother has lost 10 pounds since the beginning of Lent.
I have printed out the "rules" for Lent. They are not this strict, according to her church. Plus, she is too old to be required to participate.
She, of course, will not listen to any attempts to get her consume more than this. Not from the care staff, the doctor, family, or the chaplain. She also says that she will not change this once Easter is over.
Mom is now dizzy and unsteady on her feet. She is now down to 106 pounds at 5'7.
I see possible falls in the future. She has ZERO padding on her body, and I am concerned about broken bones, or a broken hip.
Dementia has been one surprise after another. I don't want to go into the unknown world of hospitals/rehab/nursing home without SOME kind of plan.
My mother has been wanting to die for some time now. I'm thinking that her refusal to eat a regular diet is from wanting to end her life. She is on anti-depressants and is under the treatment of a geriatric psychiatrist. I do not want to prolong her life unnecessarily.
If she were to end up in the hospital after a fall, how do I make sure that the hospital does not do anything that would be life-extending, but provides her with comfort, only? She is under palliative care from Hospice, but they are not going to be with her 24/7.
I have Medical and Financial POA.