My mother-in-law is 83 and making my 89-year-old father-in-law batty. We can all see it coming: the repeating of the stories, the buying cheese (and apples and meat and whatever) every time she goes to the store because she forgot she bought them last time but forgetting the things that she does need, and the asking "What do you want for dinner?" three or four times before making whatever it is she wants to make. She is losing it.
Her best friend, when I called about something else, said that she would be on board for sitting down with her and my father-in-law and confronting her that she needs to go to a doctor to at least be evaulated and get a baseline test done. (This woman friend is normally a "hands-off-mind-my-own-business" lady. So I was shocked.) My husband says his mom is going to do what she's going to do and that she will totally ignore all of us until she forgets where she is one day when she's out driving. And then he says she will continue to ignore us. I feel that he is dodging the issue. But I also feel that confronting her will not do us any good either. But I really feel bad for my FIL.
My MIL says that he is making her take "stupid pills" because he thinks she is stupid. (He has managed to get her to take a few herbal supplements which won't do a thing, in my opinion.) I have no place in this discussion in a lot of ways because I am the daughter-in-law, but I also see that it will be my job down the road to deal with this woman as I work part time while my husband works full time plus overtime. So thanks for letting me vent. But, seriously, if all of us (her husband, her friends, the only son, the grown grandkids and another set of their friends) were to sit down with her, will it just be a painful waste of time? My FIL is going to put my husband on the bank accounts, but he's been putting it off.