We have been getting home support in 3x a week. They come in the morning on mom's dialysis days to help her with personal care and meals, and back in the evening to help with meals and make sure mom is comfortable. They do quite a lot in a small amount of time, including some housework like dishes or bedmaking, and it's a huge help to me - I can now sleep in a bit on dialysis days (my morning personality is not suited to helping someone shower or clean their bottom!!), and I can plan evening activities knowing someone is there to make sure mom is safe and looked after.
We're in Canada. This is organized through the public health system, but the home support is operated by a private company that holds the contract with the government. How much you pay is based on your income - low income people would get a full subsidy for home support, for example. Mom has enough income that we are not subsidized, but honestly, I feel what we pay is pretty nominal ($40 per day), and consider us lucky to live where we do. For that, we get about an hour and a quarter's worth of home care per day - 45 minutes in the morning and a half hour in the evening. We could get up to 4 hours per day if we were assessed for needing that much. The down side of using "public" home support instead of going to a private company is that there is a rotating group of workers, and who we get when can be a little unpredictable.
I know these women - they are almost all women - don't make much money in comparison to the work they do. Minimum wage in my province is $11.35, and I'd be surprised if they make much more than that. I'd guess $12-15 at most. Lots of them seem to be single moms. We don't always get the same workers, but there are 2 regular ladies that mom and I both really like, and these 2 almost always do the morning the shifts (which are the longest and most physically intimate). The rest are workers we see occasionally, but we're getting to know them too.
So my question is - is it appropriate to tip home support workers during the holidays? And how much do you think would be appropriate? Would you differentiate between the workers who provide regular care and the ones who are there occasionally? Would it be more appropriate to give gifts? (I don't do holiday baking or crafts, so it would end up being store bought gifts.) I would greatly appreciate your thoughts on this!
They are your 'sanity support' and I that needs to be honored.
Happy Holidays!
When I had an agency providing caregivers I also gave them a gift.
In both cases it was in the $25.00 range.
The people that came in from JourneyCare , the Hospice we were with were not permitted to receive gifts. If they do get a gift it is supposed to be turned in and that gift is then used for other purposes. (JourneyCare is a Non-Profit Hospice).
What I did do is write a note for each of them and it was sent to their workplace. I expressed how much they meant to me, how much I/we appreciated what they did and best of all I began to volunteer sort of my way of "giving back"
So check with the people that come in, ask if they can accept gifts if they can't they will tell you. And you can tell from the way they answer what is customary.
I like the idea of gift cards. We don't have a Target here though. We do have a Walmart, but we personally don't support Walmart for a number of reasons. I guess (if we are allowed) cash would be more reasonable, because I wouldn't want to dictate where others can shop. Alternatively, I'm thinking about grocery store cards, because everyone needs to eat! My mom was a single mom herself, so we both know how tight things can get around Christmas.
Thanks for the input everyone!
The best thing I found, which was popular in my area, were gift cards from Target since there were many Target stores nearby where the caregivers lived.... and Target has such a large variety of retail items.
If the caregivers are your employees the sky is the limit depending on your financial situation.
The caregivers will have a good idea what you can afford having been in your home so whatever you decide will be appropriate. The equivalent of a weeks pay will be much appreciated, otherwise a nice gift of something you know they will like or even something you know a single Mom wants for her kids. Just make sure you are even handed whatever you choose to do.
When I was working for hospice our director opened all mail adressed to the nurses in case a family had sent money as a thank you gift. It is illegal to open other peoples mail so we objected strongly and she stopped. At the same time she would be right there when you collected your mail. One day I got a letter from one of the funeral homes. She stood right there as I opened it. So I looked at her and said"Why don't you read it to me L, I don't have my reading glasses" She grabbed it with great glee but found it to be a thank you note for how helpful I was when someone died at night. No folding green stuff fell out.
I gave our main caregivers a cute tree decoration and a stocking-filler type present for her little boy respectively - these went down well and cost next to nothing.
And you could leave a festive box of biscuits or a cake or a tin of candies in the kitchen for them to help themselves.
Your caregivers sound like real treasures, and that being so I'm sure what they'll appreciate most is the appreciation.
The agency that provided a PCP for my husband had strict rules forbidding workers from accepting money or gift from clients.