In the past, she did not sleep that well but got up very well. Now, she sleeps well but finds it hard to get up and she's very tired half of the week.
Should I get her to bed about 8 when she’s getting tired and not keep her up? I don’t like to just leave her in bed. She moves with a zimmer and can walk with me if I hold her hands. She goes up on a stairlift, but sometimes in the day she can walk up stairs with me behind her.
So could staying in bed too late be worse for her mobility? Is it okay for one day to just let her stay in bed more? Or would she get too used to it?
Her bedtime is always 8pm. She lays in bed and loves to watch tv until I come in to turn it off at the time she wants 10pm. Most days she takes a long afternoon nap as well. She is 93 and I feel she deserves to be on her own schedule not mine. Hope this helps.
She's 92 for Pete's sake, and I'm sure her body is very tired. Let your mom direct how much or how little she wants to sleep. If she's tired at 6:00 p.m. and wants to go to bed, put her to bed. Or if it's 10:00 p.m. and she's wide awake and doesn't want to go to bed then keep her up.
And perhaps you need to have the caregivers come in after 10:00 a.m. if your mom is still wanting to sleep at 9:00.
I agree with the person who wrote to have her fatigue checked out with her doctor. If everything is ok, then I would suggest a similar bed schedule to my friends. (If possible). From all the Harvard Medical advice on health, the most important things to keep us going and thriving are:
To get enough sleep for our brains
To try and get stretching and exercise each day
Eat as healthy as possible with a variety of fruits, veggies, ect…
Keep our minds learning something new each day
Keep stress down as mush as possible
Even with all of that, unfortunately, things can still go wrong. At some point the body will become diseased, or just shut down. If she still has enjoyment in her life, I feel it is best to do anything you can to keep your loved ones here and thriving, so we can enjoy them too. Many people on this site, can be very negative. Many think you should not waste your life doing anything for someone who has one foot out of the door. I disagree. Just like with plants, they can look almost dead, but with the right amount of care they can come back strong. Obviously, this is not always the case. Best of luck to you both ❤️
I'm impressed with her mobility, such as walking up the stairs. During the hours when she is awake, try and encourage more movement, exercise, even passive exercise, (someone moving her limbs for her) to help keep her from losing mobility too quickly.
even though i dont have one, a geriatric doctor might be more knowlegible to reccomend changes in meds.
Soon enough one passes into an almost fetal "back-to-the-womb" position, knees drawn up, speechless and unable to swallow.
This really, if all medical tests have been tried, is end of life and a time for Hospice.
Forcing activity on dying elders isn't the answer.
Please speak with doctor and rule out further medical intervention, and a move to palliative or end of life care.
My best to you.
My late mother at age 94-95 slept about 20 hours daily until she passed away in 2024.