In the past year he's had 3 strokes, 3 seizures, has type 1 diabetes and hyper tension. He has memory problems and doesn't think clearly as he used to. I'm afraid for him to be on the checkbook???????

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He may be suffering from vascular dementia which can happen after a stroke. Only a doctor can sort this out for you. Depression may be a part of it. Depression after strokes is common. Talk with his doctor about getting him tested for all of it. Good luck. This has to be hard on you?
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Hi Cat~I would have your husband evaluated by a neurologist-to get an idea what he may be going thrrough-and handle matters from there. If you are not able to speak with the neurologist with your husband present-either email him in advance, or bring in notes to give him---but I would make an appointment sooner rather than later-as early prevention may be key.

As for the situation with the checkbook, I would make a trip to your financial institution and ask them what you can do to protect your husband-they may have some options for you.

An additional site you could check out, as you are dealing with a spouce is: the alzheimer's spouce-----I am not sure if there is a message board there, but you may get some tips-or you send an wmail to the person who runs it.

You seem to be in a good forum as of now, and many good tips will be going out your way. Go for all the support you can....

Good luck on your caregiving journey.

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Bobcat: Follow the advise above and have your mom evaluated by a neurologist who specializes in alz. Her doctor should be able to make a referral for you. This could also be depression, but dementia is certainly possible, especially at her age and after a loss of a sibling. You are doing all the right things, not leaving her alone and getting the POA. You also should get a health care directive that gives you the right to act on her behalf if she is incapacitated or unable to speak for herself. Keep us posted and good luck.
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Some informative websites:
Depression Clues in Older Adults
Older adults who deny feeling sad or depressed may still have major depression. Here are the clues to look for:
* Unexplained or aggravated aches and pains
* Hopelessness
* Helplessness
* Anxiety and worries
* Memory problems
* Loss of feeling of pleasure
* Slowed movement
* Irritability
* Lack of interest in personal care (skipping meals, forgetting medications, neglecting personal hygiene)

Adapted from American Academy of Family Physicians,,20188947,00.html
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