Happy Sunday to all Aging care friends. I have a situation, that I have noticed I am doing, and I would like some advice.
I have been a caregiver for my mother and father for 2 years, 10 years ago, they both are still living, but are now in an assisted living facility, for several reasons.
They lived with me. Full time, non paid, but more love and such a great way for me to love my parents
I have always been torn with the people that cannot afford caregiving, so I give to them, but I have been caring for a young boy, picking him up from school, and the mother said (2 hours), however, I have noticed the mother is not coming home in two hours 3:00 - 5:00. She has of recent been coming home at 6:00, 6:30, 7:00.
This has made it very hard, I have told her every time, NOTE: I have been working for her for years, and work from August to June, this is the last week.
Please, besides reprimanding me, as she is not a person that needs volunteer help, they live in a home that is far too big, and every time I am there, another toy for the adults or children appear. I am not rich by any means, but I have compassion and truly care about people. This gets tricky, so in order for me to avoid this again, i need your help. A written contract, that will not allow this.
I have a contract, but it is something I guess that she feels she can ignore, because she is a long term client yes, but never has treated me this way. I would understand it if there were true financial issues but there are NONE.
Another women in the same neighborhood met with me, and we set a price based on the number of hours I work there, she has cut the hours in have, and decided on her own to pay me $5.00 per hour less, I said this was unacceptable, and have not cashed her checks.
Please do not be rough with the words, I know I am a person that would give my life to others, because I believe the world we live in is very selfish. I live a very modest life, but I took care of myself, paid my house off early, because I was taught at a very early age, that "no one will take care of you, you need to take care of yourself". Although to me that is a statement that I really do not like or agree with, I will never understand why in America, at least where I live pacific Northwest, parents would not think of coming in and helping their daughter with a newborn, but in other countries it is done all the time. Yet, when my parents needed me, without question I was there, I have two other sisters that could not be bothered. It did not bother me about their opinion, I know what I want to do, and I know that my compassionate nature at times, takes over and I am financially in a good spot, but no where near the word rich, middle class, because of me, I have been the one that has created all of that.
So, please if I could as you to assist me with a contract, how do you write it up.
How do you deal with clients that are going to consistently challenge the money side, when you really love the job. I mean really love the job.
The reason I say that, is there are many on here, like myself, that have been in great paying jobs, but the people were less than ideal to work for, very mean, unreasonable, the family was or is very dysfunctional. So there is always something, when you are starting a new situation.
With the above situation, it was and is a great job, although my rate was cut in half by what she did, and I talked to her every time she would do this. Previous years, she was perfect, and gave me a bonus at the end. I do not ever expect bonuses. but that is a way to show you that you were appreciated.
It got to the point where she knew my heart would not leave for her son, and to me shame on her for that, and if I was really in it for the money, i would have left, however, I feel as if I have made a very poor impression, or a very good impression. Shame on me for not leaving? Or is that true? Obviously, I love the job, I can afford it, but she needs to be honest with me. How can I get her to be honest?
I know she will be calling me for next year, but I cannot do what has been going on for 8 plus weeks.
Any thoughts, and if this does not make sense, it is because as you can tell, I have a very emotional side to this, because I really do say to you I want to help people.
I want to help many people that actually cannot in any way shape or form afford it.
I do ask them if they are in that position, if I could see any document that shows me the amount they make in a month or year.
People have written glorious reviews about me, and I have been doing this for 10 years, and never have had this type of issue until the last three month's. (issue with the hours, and people taking advantage of not showing up).
The woman I have been talking about, I have worked for for 5 school years, or day care years, so it is very odd, the behavior she is showing.
She has referred me to another family, and it is obvious that she has told her something, as when I stated the rate and gave her a contract, she is basically ignoring it, and paying me what she wants.