My sister is 73 years old, she has been diagnosed with corroded dimensia and also behavioral issues (bi-polar, anger, just plain nasty, cruel to people around her, etc.)
She refuses any help because she doesn't need any help (in her mind)
She cannot remember from one day to the next about where she has been, who has been there, but she still thinks she has a car and 2 trucks and a home that was years ago, but in her mind it is today. She keeps threatening to go back home. I'm afraid she is going to walk away one day trying to go home.
She cannot remember to turn off the stove so we have unplugged it, if she microwaves something she forgets its in there until later or not at all.
She eats everything that is in her apartment daily, for example if you take 6 bananas, she eat all 6 before she stops. So therefore you have to take food everyday.
She doesn't remember to take her meds (says she don't take any) so you have to go give her her meds everyday.
She refuses to bath, doesn't want to go outside, doesn't want you to visit, just wants to be left alone (if I leave her alone she'll starve to death)
We have tried getting her qualified for Tenncare/medicaid which we finally got, and she is qualified to get meals and household aid.
Okay, we thought this will help we won't have to go everyday to see to her needs but we were wrong.
she refuses her meals, says she is capable of cooking for herself (which she is not)
She refuses to let the lady in most evenings (they are there for 2 hours to help with the cleaning and handing her her meds, encourage her to bath, etc.) They call me and I have to go over let them in, she is rude, angry, threatening and just down right mean to me and the caretaker.
I think she is mentally ill and is very hard to deal with. We were hoping to have her entered into a nursing home or assisted living but we were told she does not qualify for a nursing home since she can do many things on her on. She won't be accepted to an assisted living faciltiiy because of her behavioral problems, she is too mean to others.
Is there anywhere for an elderly person with behavioral problems to live? I don't feel she is not capable of living alone since she cannot cook for herself and refuses to have meals delivered, can't remember who comes or goes. I'm afraid she is going to be raped, beaten, robbed or worse. She needs to be somewhere she can be monitored. But that is easier said than done. She does not have any children to take her in.
She really needs to be somewhere that monitors seniors like her, maybe a house for people with behavioral issues. Is there any help out there.
I don't know where else to go.