Continual falls... Any advice?

I would first see a lawyer. Not for her, for you. If you do not have any POA or other legal responsibilities and do not want them (why would you?) there could be some paperwork you can file stating as much so you are not responsible for your mother in any legal way.
You already have your father's care on your plate. That's enough.
Odd things can happen when you are a presumed caretaker especially to a narcissistic parent. There was a woman and her daughter who moved in with the mother/grandmother who was unable to care for herself. When the woman laid down on the floor one day and refused to get up they called the EMS and police who said they could not force her to get up. They got her a pillow and blanket and kept trying to get her up. She would not even allow them to clean her up. Several calls to EMS and always the same - she is of sound mind legally and we can't force her to move. The woman died there on the floor. The daughter and granddaughter are now in jail for 5 yrs for elder abuse/neglect because they didn't do enough. Had they left the home, they still would have been found guilty because according to the state they didn't try hard enough (though no one in court could say what they should have done). I spoke for them in court because I worked with the woman who I knew to be horribly inept at self care and extremely demanding and narcissistic. I am sad I could not help more but it was a warning loud and clear. When my own mother suffered a spontaneous break of her dominant hand as she leaned on her walker to get up not one of us was willing to take on moving in with her (she was much like your mother but not with the meds, just the attitude). We took that opportunity to have her brought to the ER and from there made it clear to the nurses she had no where to go and no one to move in with her or to take responsibility. She was put in the care of a social worker who tried to get her to have a caretaker move into her home but when she refused living with someone she was packed off to a nursing home. In this case your smartest move is to legally absent yourself from her life. With people like this it's either you are all out, or all in.

Yes....next time she is hospitalized, talk to patient services. They must not release her to her same old living arrangements...it is very clearly unsafe for her. And no, she cannot be released to you.

She he needs to be in a facility where her needs are met....and NOT your home.

they will try to get you to agree to be her caregiver while she continues living in the same place...make it clear to them that she has been hospitalized over and over because she is t safe in the place.

leave her on their hands......

My mom was not a drinker but was addicted to her oxy pills and with no balance....Well, we all know how that ends up.

Finally mom ended up in the hospital after a fall. I had checked out the local assisted living facilities and had one lined up. She was transferred directly from the hospital to assisted living. This was not as easy as ABC, it was a couple weeks of hell but that’s what we’d come to.

I had gone through the same crap you did a couple times previously, hospital sending her home when she couldn’t even sit up and dad with moderate dementia trying to care for her.

It kills me how our parents don’t want to compromise. They feel we owe everything to them. Everything revolves around their needs. No, it isn’t just about them. It’s about all of us.

She may be drinking often. She may also be taking medications. There is not much you can do if that is the case. Nothing you say or do will change her. Never let her move in with you! Very sad! 😢

My MIL started talking about committing suicide when her car was taken away. Then she started talking about it when we were talking to her about assisted living. I went to a doctor appointment with her and gave the nurses a heads up before we went in that I was going to mention it. And I did. When I brought it up the doctor asked her if she really was telling us she was going to commit suicide and she said yes, so it's in the doctor's files. The doctor then asked her if she wanted to commit suicide at the moment and she said no. She just says it so we'll give her car back and so we will stop talking about AL. Doctor told me (in front of her) "if she talks about suicide again, you need to call 911 immediately and they will take her to the hospital and keep her for 72 hours to make sure she is not a threat to herself". MIL said no, she wasn't really going to do it. She just felt like telling us that. Doc told her it didn't matter. These things need to be taken very seriously. So we held a family meeting with all the sibs and MIL and told everyone that the doc said to immediately call 911 if she does it again and to have her admitted under a suicide watch. Funny enough, she's never mentioned it again.

If she threatens suicide call 911, that will end that. You can go no contact, I have had to with my mother, who is a nasty drunk, it was her or me, I chose me. She is 94, lives alone and hates everyone including me. Other family members have not spoken to her for 30 years, and have no intention of doing so. I have let the chips will fall where they may, I gave up.

Sorry to post so many times, but I just checked the Care Topics (top RHS of the screen) then scroll down the alphabetic list to alcohol, and there are some articles there that might help, certainly support. Yours, Margaret

https://www.agingcare.com/topics/189/alcohol-abuse

First of all, stop buying her booze. I loved my mother in law (when she was sober) but wouldn't buy her booze and if I found it in my house, tossed it out.) . I take it she is put in the hospital when she breaks something. Refused to let them release her to you and tell them you can't/won't take her and she can't live alone. Then "they" will be responsible for her going into assisted living. By the way, when my mother in law was in a nursing home she kept trying to leave to go get some beer so (with my permission) they let her have a short can of beer once a day. Kept her from binge drinking and she enjoyed it. I think the "keeping her at arms-length" is a good idea.

I am the Poster: I want to thank everyone for responding, and mostly for your support!!!!! This situation is so horrible and so hard to explain to anyone. I feel like I am walking around with a few bricks around my neck all of the time.

Mom has been hospitalized for either falls or Benzo withdrawl/overdose 5-6 times since March 2018. She always has excessive alcohol in her system. She's been Baker-Acted at least twice, and has done four rounds of stays at a mental health facility. In June 2018 the hospital forced me to take her home while she was still drunk & beligerent, so I learned my lesson then not to show my face when she is admitted.

I've tried to let the "system" intervene but they keep releasing her and then we just do it all over again. My fear is that if I force the issue of moving into some type of facility and she is kicked out, then I am stuck with her because her house will have been sold. She can be extremely nasty, dropping the "F" bomb all over and I've had to apologize for her behavior in public several times.

This morning I drove by the cemetery where my parents purchased their plot, and I thought to myself that when they are (finally) gone, I will NEVER set foot in that cemetery. I will not be the somber visitor bringing flowers, I will only feel relief that I got my life back. Both parents have been a mess for a decade now, both abused alcohol, Benzos, and brought all of their drama to my doorstep. I want to run away :(