Can my mother who has dementia remove me as Power of Attorney? If she does, would I be notified of this change?

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Yes, your Mom can remove you as Power of Attorney if she understand what the change in the POA means at the time that she signs the Revocation form and the new Durable-POA or Healthcare-DPOA form(s). As mentioned before, if an attorney is involved in the change of POA, then you most likely will receive a letter or a copy of the "Revocation of Power of Attorney" form that your Mother signed. You might not receive a copy of the new POA form that she signed if you are not the new POA.

My Mom changed her Durable-POA from me to our family lawyer 4 months after she went to live in a nursing home. She was able to talk coherently about her finances and about her current living situation (in between episodes of delusions) so she was "encouraged" to change her Durable-POA since she thought (erroneously) that my brother and I were stealing from her and that we had gambled away the farms. I had to petition for guardianship and conservatorship; and after several thousand dollars and a multitude of meetings with various attorneys, the Attorney Ad Lidem, assigned by the court to represent my Mother, decided that my Mother was mad at my brother and me and that she really did NOT know what she was doing when she signed the Revocation form and the new Durable-POA form. The Attorney Ad Lidem recommended that the Durable-POA be returned to me and the court agreed.

So depending on your situation, you may or may not be notified of the change of POA. And depending on your situation, you may or may not have to petition to regain POA or to get guardianship &/or conservatorship of your Mother.
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Reply to DeeAnna

If she can understand what the change in the POA means, yes, she can change it.

If she is doing this through a lawyer the lawyer should notify you. If she is doing this through a friend or on her own, there is no requirement that she notify you, but certainly that is the sensible thing to do!
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Reply to jeannegibbs

mamasmama, it depends on what stage your Mom's dementia. If your Mom is at a point where she cannot understand legal documents, then I doubt she would be able to make any changes to the Power of Attorney.
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Reply to freqflyer

Dear mamasmama,

It is possible and I don't know if you would be notified. I would talk with her care providers and an elder law attorney about this possibility. I'm not sure of your exact circumstances, but maybe try to have a family meeting with her and an attorney to ensure everyone is on the same page.
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Reply to cdnreader