We recently drive from Texas to Alabama to see my wife's grandmother and her son-in-law (my wife's father and aunt have both passed). She is in an assisted living facility, having been diagnosed with dementia and a number of other illnesses. She has struggled, as well, with prescription dependency as long as my wife can remember. Upon arriving, we quickly learned that she was not being cared for by the uncle (her widowered son-in-law) as much as we were led to believe. We began to discuss moving her near us to ensure she is getting proper care, so we determined that my wife should be granted power of attorney. The uncle said he would take care of it. We just learned that instead of my wife being named POA, the uncle was actually named, saying that's what my wife's grandmother wanted. We were told from another source that the grandmother was told the person with POA needs to be nearby. In addition, the will was changed to include the son-in-law as an equal recipient in her estate. We are not sure what our options are now. The entire thing has been done under the guise of him just wanting to help out, though it seems he hasn't really been doing much for her.