Ok, this may seem like a silly question but I want an opinion if we are doing the right thing. My mother has dementia, has good days and bad days. Had a lot of health issues last year which seemed to increase her confusion and anxiety. But now things seem to be leveling out. Last month she had a pretty bad cold/cough, so we had to start wearing depends on her to help with the bladder leakage. Before she started wearing the depends, she soaked a few chairs in the house. But now that she is well again, we have continued with her wearing the depends, knowing that at some point she will need to wear them permanently. Try to get her accustomed to them. But is this wrong of us to do so? She will comment on them, how much she hates them, how uncomfortable they are. She doesn't need that pad, and doesn't know why we put it in her pants! I should say that she has good bladder functions - at this time. Doesn't drink a lot through the day, but when she goes, she goes a lot! I have ordered some washable incontinence panties, but worry about the potential for infections? Does anyone have any feedback? I'm not trying to be cruel to her. If she didn't realize the difference, I wouldn't even think of it. But since she does, I don't want to treat her like her feelings don't matter.