Husband in AL.

I can’t truly appreciate what it is like to place a spouse since I have not . But I imagine it’s much harder than placing a parent .
I’m sure it’s a huge adjustment that takes time . Fawnby has excellent advice .
((((Hugs))))

My Mom was allowed to stay in an AL because she was easy. We would visit in the common area. I got in a little socialization too because not everyone had Dementia. When I had my granson, he was 2 or 3, I would take him with me. The residents love seeing children and Mom enjoyed it to. One of the men liked rolling a ball to him and having grandson bring it back. I always found someone to talk to. I enjoyed the events they had too.

Spending a lot of time with him in the facility. Making friends with other spouses there who are doing the same. I haven’t found socializing with other friends to be very helpful because they have no idea what my life is like now and I don’t want to burden them or answer questions. I still love being with my husband even though he is much different now. I also enjoy interacting with his friends in memory care and have come to appreciate what wonderful people they still are.