This is your second post from March. Your Aunt should not be caring for this man. She needs some peace and even though you help, she doesn't get it for long. As my Mom said about caring for my Dad "when you take those vows, they don't tell you when they get old so do you" Meaning that you just don't have the physical or mental energy to do the caring. She really needs to place him for her own health.
Tripping over a dog is a frequent cause of falls in the elderly. It would be Best for the dog and/or person to be rehomed or physically separated, except for brief visits when there is direct supervision. The poor dog is being ABUSED. He is not even being over fed out of love but by the obsession of a dementia patient Also having a dog under his feet is a fall hazard which can injure the patient or the dog. They need to be separated. I know it is difficult and I am sorry this is happening.
Once the dog dies from this poor diet, the problem is solved. Give it a nice backyard funeral, grieve with the owner, and refuse to discuss it anymore. No recriminations allowed, no mention of dog's name; if he asks about the dog, you don't know what happened.
My grandmother used to give their dogs candy all the time. She was asked not to do it, but she didn't comply. Grandmother died before the dogs did.
He is 87 y/o uncle. Diagnosed with Alz & parkinsons. My 88 y/o aunt is his primary caregiver. Uncle is inseparable from his dog. As soon as my aunt turns her back, he feeds the dog cheese stix, cookies, last bites of lunch/dinner, etc. When auntie catches him in the act...he insists "Im not feeding the dog!" Dog follows him everywhere since she has learned there is yummy people food along the way. We know not to argue, but we are hesitant to put a lock on the fridge.
Is "him" living with you? Is the dog yours or his? If you, dog and "him" all live together you have to crate the dog while you are not right there to monitor what is going on. If "him" is living alone...He shouldn't be....the dog needs to be removed. or another arrangement must be made to keep the dog safe. And if "him" is living alone a caregiver 24/7 would solve 2 problems.
“Him” and the dog must be separated and not live in the same place. It’s cruel to make a dog get sick because a failing mind can no longer understand the consequences of over feeding
"He" is not fit to have a dog. Some modern food is so processed it will seriously harm the animal. Sorry but it needs rehoming, is it getting veterinary treatment when it is sick ?
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This is your second post from March. Your Aunt should not be caring for this man. She needs some peace and even though you help, she doesn't get it for long. As my Mom said about caring for my Dad "when you take those vows, they don't tell you when they get old so do you" Meaning that you just don't have the physical or mental energy to do the caring. She really needs to place him for her own health.
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You can't stop the dementia behaviors of someone with dementia.
You can't reason with them. And they don't remember what happened earlier.
Can someone else foster the dog for now? You could let him continue and the dog will be sick, and could die.
My grandmother used to give their dogs candy all the time. She was asked not to do it, but she didn't comply. Grandmother died before the dogs did.
Is the dog yours or his?
If you, dog and "him" all live together you have to crate the dog while you are not right there to monitor what is going on.
If "him" is living alone...He shouldn't be....the dog needs to be removed. or another arrangement must be made to keep the dog safe. And if "him" is living alone a caregiver 24/7 would solve 2 problems.