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I don't know if she don't remember she just ate or what. She gets food and hides it in her room , in her purse,and other places. By the time I find it its not fit to eat. What is the best way to handle this ? She is on hospice.

If her weight was down this much, why would you worry about her eating a lot now? She is on hospice, which is end of life care. Quite honestly this is the point where she should be allowed to eat whenever and whatever she pleases.
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In my opinion, weight gain at the end of life is not a problem. Hiding food is. I suggest that you or your wife's caregiver control her access to food but not be overly restrictive about the amount you serve. The end of life is not a time to be concerned about a person eating too much or gaining weight.
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Your wife has reached the end of her life now, John. Let her gain all the weight she wants, no problem. If she tries to eat food unfit to eat, I trust she'll either spit it out or you will find it and toss it out.

My condolences on your stress and upcoming loss.
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Are you there with her all the time? Or is someone?
I wouldn't worry too much about her eating extra food and gaining weight. She probably does not remember what she has eaten, and she finds it appealing.
If she's on hospice, it's not going to harm her.
However, I am worried about her hiding food and eating something that may be bad. Or even trying to eat something inedible. People with dementia do try eating things that are not even food. Because they don't know.
She needs full time supervision. Don't let her eat something that may be harmful. If you can't have full 24 hour eyes on her, you could install cameras to watch what she is doing - just to monitor for her safety.
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My wife is Type I diabetic and now mid stage dementia, referred to as Alzheimer's disease by physicians, but without any determination of actual physical indicators like positive blood tests or imaging. I suppose that doesn't matter (that's what the physicians say, including neurologists), but fwiw, I'd like to know.

But regarding food and eating: She gets food and eats it when I am unaware, and will hide things like half eaten apples or bread with jam. Her endocrinologist says not to be concerned about the eating, just maintain her insulin regimen. For the first time a couple of days ago, I found her trying to eat small toys that she thought were candies, a Christmas gift from people who thought they were being kind, but didn't realize that she thinks like a toddler now. So, I have to screen things carefully.

Based on the endocrinologists recommendation, I am not going to police her access to foods, but will need to be more diligent about her hiding food. Perhaps as I learn to avoid policing the eating, she will stop hiding foods. So far we've not had a pest problem, but it is really annoying to find a stash of half eaten fruits in her sock drawer.
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Rosered6 Jan 16, 2026
I wish you well. I think your approach makes sense.
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Discuss with Hospice / MD.
She may need more supervision and/or decide, since she is in Hospice, to allow her to do as she wishes.

What does Hospice nurse say about this?
Their MD?

Gena / Touch Matters
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Rapid weight loss followed by rapid gain often signals an underlying medical, metabolic, medication-related, or emotional shift—not a willpower issue.

What to do now:

Notify the primary care provider promptly
Request review of:

Medications (especially antidepressants, steroids, Parkinson’s meds, appetite stimulants)
Thyroid, GI, metabolic labs
Depression, anxiety, or trauma-related eating patterns

Focus on nutrient-dense, structured meals, not restriction
Watch for edema, shortness of breath, or fatigue → report immediately


Caregiver truth:
Sudden appetite changes are often the body trying to self-regulate after depletion. This needs medical curiosity, not control.
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lealonnie1 Jan 18, 2026
Oops, hit Helpful by mistake. The wife has dementia. This behavior is common with such a condition
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My dad was slim all his life and ate less and got a lot more picky in the years leading up to his dementia diagnosis. He was about 5’11” and about 170 lbs most of his adult life and then was 108 lbs at death.

The last couple of years he would hide food, both foods he did not want (sandwiches, fruit, scrambled eggs, yogurt smoothies) and foods he liked (cookies, candy, ice cream) in his pockets, dresser drawers, under furniture, in his bed, and throw it out windows. It created a lot of mess and unhygienic conditions. My mom refused to supervise him or have aides in the house, even once he was in home hospice.

The more time passed, the more we let him eat whatever he wanted in whatever quantities he wanted. The last six months or so, he wanted only small amounts of vanilla ice cream and orange juice. He had a few other suspected terminal illnesses in addition to dementia and our thought was, why fight over this?

Hospice supported letting him eat only what he wanted but would give meds for example, when he developed constipation or diarrhea from this diet to treat the symptoms.

It took a lot for my way of thinking to shift over those years and it wasn’t all at once. It was like compassion played a larger role and wisdom shifted on what really matters. If that makes any sense.

Good luck getting through this. If your major concern is keeping her from hiding food and it spoiling, the only ways that I know of are controlling access her access - either locking cabinets and fridge, or supervising her closely, either yourself or someone else like aides. And also, going through her purse, pockets, and other potential hiding places. That will be needed to prevent rodents and bugs too.

You could ask her doctor about it, but I doubt they have anything much to offer.
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If she is not taking anxiety meds, maybe she should be. Run this by the Hospice nurse.
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You may consider talking to your wife about the importance of the sting on a regular basis. You may want to see if there is a medical condition that may be causing the situation. Nutritional facts and information or a consult from a dietitian or physician may be recommended.
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lealonnie1 Jan 18, 2026
The medical condition is Alzheimer's/dementia. OK talking to his wife will have zero effect.
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