Can you give us more information? Are you caring for them at your home, their home? I know this is a tremendous amount of work and worry even if they are in a care home. Even visiting them in a care home to check in and make sure they are receiving the proper care can be exhausting. The financial aspect is also very time consuming. I'm fortunate that my husband has taken on that role of managing the finances and has does a fantastic job of it. To me, the hardest part of all this is dealing with the resentment of not having my sibling step up and help at all but that is another issue. I think hiring a fiduciary to help with the bills, etc. will take a lot of pressure from you. I know I could not do all this by myself. Wishing you some peace - it is a rough road we are on and a very sad one watching our parents age.
Are mom and step dad cognizant? If yes they can select another POA that can do what needs to be done for them. If they are not cognizant then you may have to step down and let a Court Appointed Guardian manage them. Talk to the Elder Care Attorney (or who set up the original POA documents) and say that you simply can no longer manage the role of POA
What is the transition you're going through? Are they moving or needing more care? If they're moving to a facility that facility should be helping you through this process, although it's certainly still a lot of work.
Are you wanting to resign as POA or are you wanting help managing everything? I believe resigning POA if you're currently doing a bunch of care for an incompetent person/couple needs to be done with care so you don't wind up in trouble for abandoning a helpless person. Are your mom and stepdad still living in their own place? Or in a nursing home or assisted living?
If you want someone else to take over paying their bills, and they have the money to pay for it, you can hire a fiduciary to manage their financial affairs.
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If yes they can select another POA that can do what needs to be done for them.
If they are not cognizant then you may have to step down and let a Court Appointed Guardian manage them.
Talk to the Elder Care Attorney (or who set up the original POA documents) and say that you simply can no longer manage the role of POA
Are you wanting to resign as POA or are you wanting help managing everything? I believe resigning POA if you're currently doing a bunch of care for an incompetent person/couple needs to be done with care so you don't wind up in trouble for abandoning a helpless person. Are your mom and stepdad still living in their own place? Or in a nursing home or assisted living?
If you want someone else to take over paying their bills, and they have the money to pay for it, you can hire a fiduciary to manage their financial affairs.