Yes, but under the condition that you make him your Power of Attorney and then have a written employment contract covering how much you will pay him for his efforts. Do not ask him to live with you since this type of arrangement seems to always degrade the caregiver's life (being assumed as "on call" 24/7, no relief from the responsibilities regardless of being paid).
Please realize that hands-on caregiving is not for everyone and to give your son the emotional ability to step away if it turns out like this. You should have a Plan B for your hands-on care that does not involve your son. Also, never make him promise to "never" put you in a facility.
NO. Unless you want to ruin his best years of his life with stress, burnout, no chance to have a wife or family, and no financial future or money available when he gets older and needs it. Does that sound like LOVE to you?
Of course he can. Will he lose his ability to have a job that has important benefits such as contributing to SS, health insurance, and providing income for his financial future? Medicaid does sometimes pay family members to be caregivers, but it is not much money and won’t provide for stable finances. I wish you well in finding the best plan
Does you son want to be your caregiver, and is he capable of doing what is needed?
Will this role take him away from a career or a paying job which is allowing him to add to his social security credits? I never realized until I was in my 60's just how important this is.
Will you guilt your son into doing everything for you and make his life miserable?
Are you both looking for "easy money" to be paid out by Medicaid? You must qualify financially and on needs basis for Medicaid to pay for a home caregiver. If you qualify, he can be paid for specific cares that you need. If you are unable to do your own laundry, to make your own food, to get dressed on your own, to go to the toilet without help, have tubes or medications to be managed, or are too weak to stand, walk or get out of bed on your own, then a caregiver can be paid to help with these things. It may be only a few hours a week, or up to 40 hours a week if you are completely disabled and dependent on someone providing all your needs, requiring 24 hour supervision.
Please have your son consider all of these things before jumping in to this role!
We need more info. Why do you think he could not be? Does he want to be paid? The only agency that may pay him would be Medicaid and you have to fit a criteria income wise. It also would not be much.
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Yes, but under the condition that you make him your Power of Attorney and then have a written employment contract covering how much you will pay him for his efforts. Do not ask him to live with you since this type of arrangement seems to always degrade the caregiver's life (being assumed as "on call" 24/7, no relief from the responsibilities regardless of being paid).
Please realize that hands-on caregiving is not for everyone and to give your son the emotional ability to step away if it turns out like this. You should have a Plan B for your hands-on care that does not involve your son. Also, never make him promise to "never" put you in a facility.
Does that sound like LOVE to you?
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Does you son want to be your caregiver, and is he capable of doing what is needed?
Will this role take him away from a career or a paying job which is allowing him to add to his social security credits? I never realized until I was in my 60's just how important this is.
Will you guilt your son into doing everything for you and make his life miserable?
Are you both looking for "easy money" to be paid out by Medicaid? You must qualify financially and on needs basis for Medicaid to pay for a home caregiver.
If you qualify, he can be paid for specific cares that you need. If you are unable to do your own laundry, to make your own food, to get dressed on your own, to go to the toilet without help, have tubes or medications to be managed, or are too weak to stand, walk or get out of bed on your own, then a caregiver can be paid to help with these things. It may be only a few hours a week, or up to 40 hours a week if you are completely disabled and dependent on someone providing all your needs, requiring 24 hour supervision.
Please have your son consider all of these things before jumping in to this role!