My husband is in a skilled nursing home, which is not very good for him according to his condition.

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Nziza60 Asked January 25, 2026

My husband is in a skilled nursing home, which is not very good for him according to his condition.

He diesn’t like the food, his clothes gets lost when they are taken for laundry, he miss his Doctors appointments if am not there, the staff are making extra noises unnecessarily while the patients are sleeping, they are nit attentive to notice his s health changes until I tell them, etc etc. He is a retired Cardio thoracic surgeon, he deserve better! Keeping him home, I need special care givers, which are very expensive I can’t afford!. Please advise ke what to do!🙆‍♀️

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Everyone deserves better! Get some earplugs from the chemist, and that might help with the night noises. Provide some bottom of the range clothes, so that “missing” isn’t so annoying - you can get him a selection from Op Shops. Get him some occasional food “treats”, so that he isn’t stuck with only what the facility provides. His standards (and yours) are probably higher than you are going to find in most ordinary facilities.

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If He is a retired surgeon, you might be in a position to have caregivers come to your home and take care of him in shifts. Yes it would be more expensive than having him go into a facility, But you would be able to know exactly what his day is like. If you don't feel that's an option for you, then do a good search around for another facility... Sometimes Faith -based facilities are better, And consider moving him.

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You always have the option to do his laundry. Issues with laundry in managed care are common. You should meet with the administrator to voice your concerns, if that doesn’t result in you being more pleased, you always have the option to move him to another place

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Look for another facility. If your husband is a retired surgeon, you probably have better savings than most seniors, for a higher-quality facility. Can you talk with some of his former colleagues for recommendations?

Why are they missing the medical appointments? Is the staff making the appointments and then ignoring them, or do you make the appointments?

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How old is he? How long has he been there? What are his limitations? My mom complains about the food, says her clothes are lost and complains about the noise in her facility. Sometimes old people like to complain. It fills the hours. If you really feel this place is subpar, find another one and have him moved. My mom is in an excellent one, but the complaints from her continue.

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Maybe he needs to change to a different facility. Also there are locations where a physician service comes to him for general medical care

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If you see him regularly, wash his clothes thats what I fid for my Mom. Has it been arranged that tge facility is to transport him to appts? You can transferbhim to another facility.

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