My husband is in later stage of Alzheimer's. His friend that he knows for many years wants to take him out for lunch. I'm not comfortable with the idea because I know my husbands needs and this person does not. Why do some people take this disease so lightly. How can I be at ease with this knowing what he needs. My husband does not even recognize me anymore. Please give me some suggestions. This is the friend that took him home from a baseball games a few years ago and brought him to the wrong house.
Since Covid , most restaurants still have the option to pickup and take the food home to your husband. That’s the option you tell this friend he can do .
If the friend brought him to the wrong house in the past , I’d wonder if the friend has dementia too by now .
Tell him you are sorry, but you are now managing for him where he cannot, and you feel this is an unwise choice.
There are about a thousand things that can be done in lieu of husband's friend taking him away from premises where he is safe. Tell friend to think out of the box. Tell him you will fix them a nice lunch on the patio and serve it. If hubby is in care already tell him to have lunch served to the room and enjoy a private visit.
Your last sentence gave me my first giggle of the day. Sorry, but OH MY!!
Best to you. I don't know that friend will understand, but then that's too bad. There are lots of things in life we don't understand.
There’s no reason to stress over this and you do not owe him any explanation. You have plenty on your plate- this person needs to go away.
who is an old friend of my husbands. I only met him thru my husband when we got
married. Since July I have been dealing with Epstein Barr and two weeks ago I had to
go to urgent care to get treated for an upper respiratory infection. On top of taking care of my
husband I am not in the mood to entertain people. I'm barely getting any rest which is
what I need. I don't get why all these so called friends just dont get it. Thank you for
your response. I appreciate it.
And don't be afraid to tell this "friend" that you are uncomfortable and why!
The friend can come visit if you are ok with that. Tell him bring lunch in.
Tell him that he does not understand your husband's needs.
I have family members who are clueless, because they are so self-centered, they are oblivious to what is around them. This friend sounds similarly self-centered.
To take your husband out somewhere, in unfamiliar surroundings, with someone he may not recognize, would do so much damage!
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