My husband is in memory care. He takes several showers a day and leaves water running and plugs drains causing flooding. Any suggestions?

You're paying big bucks for him to be there, so the MC needs to find a solution. If your husband is a guy who showers daily, then he showers daily. If he can still do this for himself, then great. After his daily shower the staff has to start watching him better. If his room has its own shower, they can put a lock on it. If it's a communal showering facility, that place should be locked like a gas-station bathroom with the key kept at the nurse's station and it should have to be asked for.

Don't let the memory care bring this problem to you though because it isn't your problem. It's their job.

The facility should be able to put a lock on the faucet, like what would be used for toddler child-proofing. Then you or a staff member can unlock it and supervise his showers, on a reasonable schedule. Having a wet floor is a slip-and-fall risk for which they could be liable, if your husband gets injured because they knew about the problem and didn't correct it.

The obvious question here is why isn't your husband being monitored while he is in the shower, especially being in memory care? Like already said, this is a memory care issue not a husband issue. Let them figure it out.

Not sure why the staff isn’t monitoring to prevent this?

This is for the facility staff to problem solve. Ask them what they intend to do about it. Surely he's not the first dementia resident to do this.

Not your circus, not your monkeys. You're paying big money for him to be cared for there, and the facility should be discussing this with you and telling you what THEY are doing to solve the problem. Just be glad that it's not your home plumbing he's doing this to.

Maybe it's me, but what is the facility your husband is in doing about this? Why is he being allowed to get into any sort of shower area without supervision?

This is now the problem of the MC. Surely they aren't bringing it to YOU??? In MC patients typically are monitored during showertime.

I must tell you that the plugging up of the plumbing is a constant, and quite typical in memory cares.

Your husband’s dangerous situation should be addressed to the facility director unless the staff resolves the problem.

The staff at the memory care facility should be working to resolve this issue. He may need to move to a different level of care, where he has more supervision.