How old are you? Why do you find the need to travel with a 91yr old incontinent man? Even a death in the family, after a certain age, would get me to drive any distance with someone incontinent. I would tell them sorry with husbands health problems cannot come. I placed my Mom in respite care so I could travel 8 hrs to nieces wedding.
Why are you traveling with your husband who is in such condition without an aide being with the two of you? Or even at all?
You've gotten some good advice on bringing your own bed pads and making him use Depends along with pads. You should also speak to the hotel manager and explain the situation to them. They may make a special acommodation for you like putting a waterproof mattress cover on the bed. Talk to the hotel management before you go. If the bed getting peed on, you will get charged for a replacement and will have to pay. Talk to them ahead of time.
"My husband has bladder cancer (on surgery #3), moderate dementia, and his kidneys work at 40 and 60%. He feels okay at 91. No symptoms, so he doesn't want to talk about hospice, but I do."
And be sure to use them wherever you go. I assume this is emergency travel? Otherwise, leave DH home with a caregiver. He seems in no condition to travel.
Perhaps traveling and hotel stays is no longer an option.
If you have to, here are tips for managing the incontinence:
For incontinence, Make sure he is wearing Depends, or adult diapers, which are more absorbent than Depends.
Washable bed pads come in multiple sizes. You can get one that is roughly 3 feet by 4 feet for more coverage. Also, even though the pad has a moisture resistant backing, liquid will eventually seep through. I double up the pads, one right on top of the other. You can also buy 30" x 30" disposable pads, with a plastic backing, so you can throw it away rather than figure out what to do with the soaked cloth pad.
You can also buy a waterproof fitted sheet to take with you and cover the entire mattress. You should never be leaving any hotel room with a pee-soaked mattress!
You make sure that "he" wears Depends along with a pad in them, and put down either a waterproof pad or chux underneath him to make sure that you keep pee from soaking through on to the hotel mattress.
Chux come in two sizes. Get the peach color, its larger and more absorbant. Your husband needs to wear depends. Limit his liquid intake in the evening.
I will assume he has Dementia or some physical problem where he can't get out of bed at night? Just curious, why do you need to travel. I placed my Mom in respite care because it was an 8hr drive to my nieces wedding. She had Dementia and was incontinent.
You can find a wide variety of sized pads, some with cute patterns if you search for washable dog pee pads! My mother preferred the patterns and they make sizes up to the size of a rug. Many also have no slip backings.
Washable Incontinence diapers and fully lined pull-up waterproof diaper underwear over that. They have comfortable ones with full absorption. They also sell washable diapers that velcro with an opening to slide in Bamboo or charcoal pads known as nappies and then, put the outer pull up over that. XXL washable bed chucks. I also purchased a bed wetting alarm used to train toddlers. The alarm goes off on a watch or device. While we aren’t potty training our beloved elders or any age, it will alert us so that we can clean them up and keep them comfortable as can be. I bought everything on Temu and works like a charm even for bowel incontinence. These items are for anyone of all ages for any medical issues, nervous bladder from anxiety or even sick with the flu, etc and having mishaps even while sleeping. I learned quickly not to use any fabric softener as well as sheets. It prevents full absorption and leaking happens. These work so much better than disposable. We also use McKessonn adult wipes to keep Skin and all clean and drop into a Diaper Genie bin.
We also found a bed pad that is large enough to go all the way across the bed and has extensions to tuck under the mattress so it stays in place, as well as other protections that we kept packed in a specific go bag labeled “hotel stays”.
I’m sad that so many people suggest no travel….if traveling …even though difficult … brings any happiness might it be worth the trouble? My 82 yr old husband ( mostly in a wheelchair/ Parkinson’s/CHF and urinary incontinence ) and i travel a bit. Hotel stays require preparation and equipment! I pad him and the bed up with pads that i bring…laundry bags and laundry soap so i can wash every day to keep his clothes and the pads fresh. If you’re traveling by plane, you can get most of these things delivered to your hotel before you arrive . I’m 82 as well so being realistic about scheduling is important … don’t want to get too exhausted ! Its different from when we were younger but we both value getting out in the world. Particularly seeing our grandkids! I understand that dementia adds an additional problem but highly recommend getting out and traveling even with all the additional logistics and equipment!
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You've gotten some good advice on bringing your own bed pads and making him use Depends along with pads. You should also speak to the hotel manager and explain the situation to them. They may make a special acommodation for you like putting a waterproof mattress cover on the bed. Talk to the hotel management before you go. If the bed getting peed on, you will get charged for a replacement and will have to pay. Talk to them ahead of time.
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And be sure to use them wherever you go. I assume this is emergency travel? Otherwise, leave DH home with a caregiver. He seems in no condition to travel.
Good luck to you.
If you have to, here are tips for managing the incontinence:
For incontinence, Make sure he is wearing Depends, or adult diapers, which are more absorbent than Depends.
Washable bed pads come in multiple sizes. You can get one that is roughly 3 feet by 4 feet for more coverage. Also, even though the pad has a moisture resistant backing, liquid will eventually seep through. I double up the pads, one right on top of the other. You can also buy 30" x 30" disposable pads, with a plastic backing, so you can throw it away rather than figure out what to do with the soaked cloth pad.
You can also buy a waterproof fitted sheet to take with you and cover the entire mattress.
You should never be leaving any hotel room with a pee-soaked mattress!
I will assume he has Dementia or some physical problem where he can't get out of bed at night? Just curious, why do you need to travel. I placed my Mom in respite care because it was an 8hr drive to my nieces wedding. She had Dementia and was incontinent.
They have comfortable ones with full absorption.
They also sell washable diapers that velcro with an opening to slide in Bamboo or charcoal pads known as nappies and then, put the outer pull up over that.
XXL washable bed chucks.
I also purchased a bed wetting alarm used to train toddlers.
The alarm goes off on a watch or device.
While we aren’t potty training our beloved elders or any age, it will alert us so that we can clean them up and keep them comfortable as can be.
I bought everything on Temu and works like a charm even for bowel incontinence.
These items are for anyone of all ages for any medical issues, nervous bladder from anxiety or even sick with the flu, etc and having mishaps even while sleeping.
I learned quickly not to use any fabric softener as well as sheets.
It prevents full absorption and leaking happens.
These work so much better than disposable.
We also use McKessonn adult wipes to keep Skin and all clean and drop into a Diaper Genie bin.
Best to you and family.
That's a terrible idea because a shower curtain cannot stay in place and will slide off the bed even if it's under the bottom sheet.